My mother is 50 years old and I am 14. I have a 10 year old sister. My father died about 1 and a half years ago, and, since then, my mother has started to drink large amounts of alcohol in the evenings. She consumes at least 2 or 3 glasses of wine every night, nearly always when alone. It makes a huge difference to her personality, which is how I first realised that she was drinking so much.
Both my mother's mother and her brother had alcohol problems, which led to my mother's brother being killed outright in a very nasty alcohol induced car accident.
I have tried to stop her from drinking so much, but first talking to her, then sticking "DO NOT DRINK" to all the wine bottles in the house, and by shouting at her while crying, but nothing at all ha worked.
My neighbour (who is my mother's close friend) and I have been talking about this, and we don't know what to do. Please help me. I can't talk to my relatives because they all live ages away and hate me.
Please help
2007-03-17 10:27:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am 22 and my dad is an alcoholic and I know how you feel. I would talk to a counselor at school if I was you. Just remember that it is not your fault and your mother has a disease. It is not healthy for her to be putting you and your sister through that. I would tell the neighbor that it is really affecting you and you really need help. good luck
2007-03-17 10:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by 1st-time-mommy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she will would desire to be certain and admit to herself that she has a concern. 2 possibilities - if others interior the relatives experience a similar way, pass to a expert counselor and pointers on a thank you to point an intervention. Or take an afternoon, and a bottle of wine, and get fairly below the effect of alcohol your self - or pretend to be, while you're a stable actress. Do it till now your mom starts off her on a regular basis binge - if she gadgets, only tell her which you're doing what she does. I doubt that's going to paintings yet you on no account comprehend.
2016-10-01 02:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by gazdecki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your moms best friend will allow you to stay with her for awhile you could call social services and let them know what is going on and that you have a place to stay you just need them to help you get her help , and see if they can help you im sure they will , but in the mean time you could be going to aa meetings and learning all you can to help your mom before she can get help she has to admitt she has a problem to you or her friend , that would be the first step then getting the right help would be the second step so please go to libary and ask for books on alcoholic and read up on how to help them ,,
2007-03-17 10:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by family fan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say invite a therapist into the house so she can't argue and have them talk to each other and/or get rid of the Alcohol.
2007-03-17 11:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to her again..and tell her how it makes u feel...and tell her that it is hurting u and ur sister...becuz i have that same problem..and tell her u wont talk to her if she drinks...it worked on my mom...and also.....go get someone who can talk to ur mom about it....try getting ur mom out of the house.....get her to do things...yea u hve been through a tradegy...but still....she needs to get up and do something other than drink...becuz sooner or later if she keeps doing that..u could lose her to....sad i kno..but ture....
2007-03-17 10:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by tina o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your counselor at school. He/She should be able to help.
2007-03-17 10:33:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can join ALANON.
2007-03-17 10:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by carq31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋