I haven't dated a girl for about two years now, and I'm going to graduate from college at the end of next semester. I'm a little bit afraid to ask anybody out because I think the chances of her and I living close enough together, graduating somewhat close together, and getting a job near the same place are slim. I don't want to start a relationship and then discover that it's just not going to work because of those reasons. Please don't give me the answer, "If you love each other, it shouldn't matter." That's too generic and overused, in my opinion. Let me know what you all think.
2007-03-17 10:24:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm...are u looking for somebody or do you have someone in mind...if you have someone in mind....and you're sure she likes you too....then ask about her plans for the future...simple as that...but if u dont have someone in mind...just lookin...i would advise you to wait a bit longer...situate yourself first...in terms of where you're gonna be for at least a year...cuz u sound like me...i dont like short-term relationships either...
2007-03-17 10:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by unpredictedmystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are overthinking this. Dating is just going out and having a good time and getting to know someone. You don't have to plan a future with someone to go on a date with them. And you need to get out there and discover what you really want in someone. You won't truly know that unless you get out there. Who knows? You may find the one, or you may make a few friends. Get out there !!!
2007-03-17 17:31:55 · answer #2 · answered by wondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is risky anyway. You never know what you are getting into in a new relationship. Stop reading so much into it. You are getting ahead of yourself quite a bit. Remember it's just a date. Not a commitment for marriage. Have more faith in the process and more confidence in your good decision making skills.
2007-03-17 17:29:47 · answer #3 · answered by fatbabyceesay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard that saying 'it's better to have lived and loved than to have never loved at all'? You don't know what's gonna happen in the future, but that doesn't mean you should avoid getting close to someone.
You said the 'if you loved each other' answer is too generic, but it's the truth. When you love someone and want to put that first, you build your life around that.... but whose to say that you'll fall in love? whose to say that you'll even find someone at all?
2007-03-17 17:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother dating in college. It isn't what you should be thinking about right now. As I like to say, girlfriends come and go, but a degree lasts forever.
2007-03-17 18:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure you can date. but make it casual. you dont need a girlfriend but you can still ask girls out. i agree. in college, you dont wan to et to attatched to a girl because you should be socusing on your studies and girls take away from that time. but you can be a "casual dater". who knows.. you might meet someone nice.
2007-03-17 21:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by jo_bro_hoe_9890 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋