I am 24 and feel so drained and lonley, I didnt have a care free time to have fun, mom still doesnt understand why I feel so bad, I basically had no childhood. I am pregnant now and feel tired of being responsible. I havent laughed in years. Really angry at the time lost, not sure how to feel better now, feel I dont fit with people my own age.
2007-03-17 10:11:58 · 8 answers · asked by Alejandra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My husband doesnt like to dance or anything like that, his idea of fun is to watch football and basketball and I dont like this
2007-03-17 10:41:41 · update #1
that is terrible, she drained all the youth and fun out of you, -young people need to laugh, they need fun to function normally,, all people do, get out of that house now, your mother can find someone else to care for her, you are not her born slave, we don't have kids to make them our servants. listen go to a good church, i hope you have a husband, walk out and call social services for her- no, she is not your responsiblity-only you baby is, trust me--she will be envious of the time you give to your baby, but you need strength and hope to be a good mother to your infant, don't lose it when the infant is crying--or something very bad might happen, so tell a counselor right now that you need help and this is all your own mothers fault, i have seen young women's whole lives ruined becasue of selfish mothers. lincoln freed the slaves. she is jealous of your life and your chance for independence becuse she doesn't have it, that is a sin, life is wonderfufl! go and live it now! we are all born with the need to laugh, we are not animals.
2007-03-17 10:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i also took care of my parents both up in age as a teenager and there is one thing you should look at is if any thing should ever happen to her you wont feel guilty that you dident do it , myou will be able to stand up and say i showed my respect and i done a great job takeing care of my parents and hold your head up high you will not regret it later i promise you you will say im glad i done that and the new baby comeing will give you a fresh start of haveing something that is actually yours and no one elses look at the positive things , believe me party life is not as fun as you think and fun is what you make it , not what everyone else makes it , you can still have fun while pregnant , with out party life , im 34 and can count my friends on 1 hand and the others are aquaintences , to me the less you know people the better , i always end up getting the shaft with people so please go seek help and try to look at the positive instead of the negative , find you some new moms at a parenting class ,to be friends with may be you could help them in some way thay will help you
2007-03-17 17:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by family fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I disagree with a therapist because they probably will be able to help a lot more than a random person, but I know how you feel. I raised my little brother because my mom was drunk until she left us. The best thing I can say is try to forgive. You'll never truly forget but eventually you will have enough time pass that what you missed out on won't haunt you as much.
2007-03-17 17:32:05 · answer #3 · answered by CrazyYoung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should do one of 2 things or both. Go talk to a Therapist because they listen and don't say negative things that would discourage you. Or you can take a mini vacation to relieve stress. Not far away just have your family or friends pamper you for a day or 2 that way you don't have to worry about spending a lot of money.
2007-03-17 18:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where your coming from, as I too didn't have much of a childhood. It seems to me that between the age of 22 and 24yo I came to a place where all my inner issues resurfaced and I too became depressed thru all of this. I will say this too shall pass grasshopper. Your emotions are in high gear with pregnancy.
Myself, I came to forgive my past and be thankful for the lessons I learned along the way. You and I both wouldn't be who we are today if we had not gone thru those trials and tribulations as children.
Now you have a child coming into your life. Are you afraid that you will be your mother? If that scares you, don't worry you are you and not your mother. If you're not ready to be a Mom, you do have the option of giving it up for adoption. There is alot of people out there who wish they could have children and can't. I'm sure if you can't someone can provide your child with a wonderful, nuturing childhood.
Keep your head up! Forgive, not forget, your past. You may want to seek professional help in order to get thru this pregnancy.
Many hugs to you my dear soul!
2007-03-17 17:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound depressed & being pregnant your hormones maybe out of wack. Go see a therapist before your child is born so you can be the best mother you can be.
2007-03-17 17:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
perhaps consider therapy. therapists can guide us and help us learn better ways to cope in life.
i hope you start feeling better... time to start taking care of YOU.
hugz
2007-03-17 17:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need a professional therapist.
2007-03-17 17:22:13 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋