about ten years ago i met this guy and i fell in love with him at first sight. we ended up having a sexual realationship. whenever anyone else was around he acted like he couldnt stabd me. then when he started dating and sleepin with other girls, he would still come to my window every nite to have sex. this went on for years. he cheated on everyone one of his girlfriends with me. no one else ever knew. i always felt like i had a claim on him cuz i had him first and he always came to me still. then i decided a few years ago that i wasnt gonna jus keep sleepin with him anymore. now every year or so he contacts me out the blue and wants to have sex. this happened last janauary.he still had the same hold over me that he has had for years. i havent seen or talked ot him since then. just wonderin wut everyone thinks i should do next time he contactsd me?
2007-03-17 10:02:42 · 12 answers · asked by meshelle2kz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He used you, You deserve better. Leave him
2007-03-17 10:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such thing as love at first sight....lust at first sight? yes. Love at first sight? no.... So there is the answer to your first question.
I think anyone reading this will give you the same answer.... this guy wants nothing more from you than sex. And you are compromising your own integrity by letting him get it.
If you really respect yourself, you'll cut off sexual ties with this guy. If you think there's a friendship to salvage, by all means, save it. But, don't let him take advantage of you time and time again. This is an easy lay for him with no strings attached.
2007-03-17 17:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by afwife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him to lose your number and stop playing games. its obvious that he was using you for sex. for one you should never have any type of relationship with a guy or person for that matter is going to treat you like crap or he/she cant stand you in front of people or even when you two are just alone together. he was just using you. yes he had other gfs and was cheating on them, but why do you think he kept you a secret so that he could always have more than one sex partner. he was wrong to treat his gfs and you that way. and i wouldnt recommend sleeping with a person who was multiple partners either, its not very safe. and even if you do use protection and he has some type of out break his testicles still rub you and can give you whatever he has.
you can do much better, go find a guy who respects you.
2007-03-17 17:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by larissaxxlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were just a booty call to him. Ignore him. It is not worth your time. He did not love you..Just what you were giving him and the fact that you made him feel in control. Please it will be hard but I don't think he loved you. If he did he would never have even thought of another girlfriend. You were a mistress and nothing more
2007-03-17 17:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Little anionyx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time hs contacts you, tell him you can't have him over because you met someone new. Me, I'd like to use you for the next 10 years.
2007-03-17 17:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer his calls or e-mails.
Why would you be this guys fantasy screw all these years?
He only calls you when he wants sex---what do YOU see in this "relationship"?
Men can't USE women unless the women permit it---stop being his toy, and find a good man of your own.
2007-03-17 17:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
10 years? havent you dropped him yet? youve not been in a relationship or have you been in a relationship also and cheating with him? i dont get it. comes to your window?
you allowed it all. you decide. peace
2007-03-17 17:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should love yourself. hes coming around for your body. not you. dont play yourself. dont waste no more time on him. i guarantee you that you label him a lover and hes calling you late night hype. hes only doing what you letting him do. time to be real with yourself, aids aint no punk, dig?
2007-03-17 17:09:16 · answer #8 · answered by rjones122075 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to read a book called "he's just not that in to you" by greg behrendt...
this is not a quality individual...
please read that little book...it will save you...
peace, tammy
2007-03-17 17:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
put him on the shelf as it seems he has done you or just blow him off like your better and not interested anymore
2007-03-17 17:06:24 · answer #10 · answered by trinawebb1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋