What to do about my girlfriends ex calling?

Question

Here is my problem. My girlfriend's ex keeps calling. This is their history.

They were together for 3 1/2 years, but the whole time they were together (never lived together) they had to sneek around because her ex's family didn't know about her being a lesbian and she knew that they wouldn't accept it if they found out. My girlfriend left the state they were living in last year in April to get settled somewhere else so that they could get away from her ex's family and build a life together. She was in one state for 2 months (her ex came to visit 2 times) and then move down to Florida in June (her ex visited 3 times). She was still making excuses about why she couldn't leave her family and everything she had there. The last time she came down to visit was the beginning of August. I met my girlfriend in the middle of November and we hit it off completely. I knew from the beginning about her ex, she explained everything to me. She is the first woman I have ever been with and I love her more than anything. She told me that she used to always jump when her ex called and after she met me and got to know me she didn't even want to answer the phone. Ever since her ex found out that we moved in together (after 2 months no less) she has been blowing up my girlfriends phone. She calls crying and telling her what a big mistake she made and all this **** trying to mess with my girlfriends head. She calls so often while she is at work that sometimes she feels she has to answer or she will call and call until she gets an answer. My girlfriend doesn't want to turn her phone off in case there is an emergency with her family and because of me calling. Her ex has started saying things to her like she doesn't really love me and she is just replacing her with me. It is starting to make me insecure because I know that my girlfriend was madly in love with this woman, but she tells me that she waited to late and that she never expected to meet me and fall in love with me the way she did. She even said that even if I weren't in her life she would not go back to her ex. I am getting beyond pissed off by the phone calls and I already dread hearing that she called again because it makes me think that maybe she has her ex on her mind. I am so tempted to call the woman and tell her to back the hell off, but what good would that do?

I need some advice on what to do, I can't take it anymore...

Julz

We have tried changing the number but she found it out again. Plus now she is calling my girlfriends family members.

Answer 1

Here's what you do, make sure no one's passing the new number around. If that doesn't work, then you get a phone for the both of you and if she calls you, tell her to fu ck off. Your girl friend needs to let the her ex know that there is nothing left. Don't feel insecured about yourself, trust your girlfriend and make sure that no doubt rises because if it does, then your relationship will crash. Plus...you can always ignore the bit ches calls. Good Luck!
A.L.