i have a boyfriend... and i really love him and all...but other guys are still tryin' to get wit me...i' alwayz tend to end up, sitting next to one of those guys, or being alone with them...then they start touching me...and i don't know how to say no, or tell them to stop...then i start getting caught up in the moment...how do i tell him to stop, in a nice way...i'm not a mean person...and i hate seeing the look of hurt or dissapointment on someones face...how do i say stop, without being rude?
2007-03-17 09:20:14 · 12 answers · asked by Jessicca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way...these guys are starting to get serious...they try taking my clothes of and fingering me...but when i start saying stop they don't take me seriously...i'm only 5'2,(i cheer) and these are big tall footballplayers
2007-03-17 10:31:51 · update #1
sounds like you bring this on yourself sorry to say...dont put yourself in this situation...you are looking for attention from males that is 1 reason why you didnt want no girls to answer you and only guys...dont sit next to them would you want your boyfriend to sit next to girl and them putting there hands down his pants touching him just because he says well i dont want to be mean ...i said stop and she didnt take me seriously...you would of thought to your self you shouldnt of been there to begin with he had to be kissing her first or it wouldnt of gotten that far and get the **** up and walk away after the first kiss was approached...
2007-03-25 08:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by LORI R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy-friend or not, the other guys need to keep their hands off you if you do not want their attentions.
Rudeness has nothing to do with what you must do. You must tell them that they are wrong.
The best way to keep away from this type of situation is to avoid being alone with any of those other guys. Anytime you are away from home, stick with your other friends, stay with groups. Do not let any guy take you anywhere alone.
You are letting them do what they do. You are letting yourself get into those situations. Only you have the power to stop it by being a little wiser about what you do and where. Think ahead and avoid those situations. But, if you need help, find those around you who can help -- family members, faculty, other school staff, friends -- you get the idea.
2007-03-25 08:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by brightpool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some of these people are right about you liking the attention you get, and that's why you don't say no right away...and maybe in the back of your mind you know what's happening is wrong, but you have to realize that if you do love your boyfriend...which I'm not sure you really do since you don't tell these other guys no right away...you can't keep letting it happen, talk to someone about it, like an adult...someone who can help you
2007-03-25 09:16:50 · answer #3 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u might be giving them hints or just flirting and they think u want them and make them think it s okay since you allow them to even kiss you. if you truly love this other person the way you say you do then maybe u just need to quit playing around wit these othr guys. or maybe u dont love this person the way u think u do cause if u did u would do him wrong put ur self in his spot how would u feel and how would u react u just need to stop being a easy person
2007-03-25 03:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by martina s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in danger. Get yourself out of this situation, and away from these people. You are already a sex-crime victim, and the crimes are only going to get worse. Gang-bang is next on the agenda. Get away from these guys, and if need be, go to the police and report them for molesting you.
2007-03-25 09:04:57 · answer #5 · answered by altosaxjazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be honest with yourself. May be you simply like when somebody is for u. U a afraid that they will stop like u if u do not let them touch u. Actually do not be afraid to offend them, quite the contrary they will respect u.
2007-03-25 06:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i woulda done some about it myself . if u already said stop n theyre not then u should take it with the school principal so they can b arrested for sexual harrasment , and stop putting yourself in situations where u have to say no. dont b a lil slut and b where they are unless u like it n want to get raped , dont blame no1 else but you!!!
2007-03-24 03:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by claudia g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT WORRY about trying to be nice!!!! these guys aren't nice they don't respect you!!!! i was too worried about being nice and got raped!! is that what you want? A firm no and push!! as a matter of fact don't get left alone with them anymore!!! worry about yourself!! this is NOT the situation to be nice!
2007-03-24 11:44:54 · answer #8 · answered by yahoo!Answers addict 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
jessicca, ain't no being nice in such situation, you're committed to a guy, then others should know that.. and don't let them touch you, they don't have the right, just show your other face and tell them stop this or there will be drama.. don't let this happen...
2007-03-17 09:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop their hand from moving on your body. Because if they get into it too much they might try to force it. They might they might not, but just try stopping their hand from touching you.
2007-03-17 09:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋