My son is 2 years old. He is a very intelligent little boy. Problem is he won't stop cussing. When he gets mad he yells out f**k you. Or b**ch. Also he spits at me. What should i do to stop this?
2007-03-17 09:00:48 · 14 answers · asked by Amy F 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Ok, first of all, you need to get him out of whatever negative environment that he is in. Kids aren't born with the knowledge to act and talk like this! Who is he around that talks like this and spits? You need to do some evaluations of the environment that you allow your child to be in.
He is at a very critical age where he picks up a lot of his words and actions from people who are in his daily life. If you don't get this taken care of soon...it will only spiral out of control. Once you get this person out of his life then you can slowly teach him that these sort of actions are not appropriate. Make it seem like a big deal to him that he just swore...(if you have any sort of discipline with him)he will catch on that what he is doing is not right nor will it be tolerated.
They are very impressionable at this age. Get this under control asap or other negative actions will start occurring. You cant punish a child this young for doing things like this when he is obviously be exposed to it by someone who is close to him. Monkey see...monkey do! He is being taught this behavior by someone so its not right to punish him for it. You are the one who has control over what he is being exposed to...not him.
Good luck, sorry if I was a little harsh. My sister had the same problem with her 3 year old and the only thing I heard from her boyfriends mouth was the F word. Its like.....duh!
2007-03-17 09:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are going to pick this language up - my son did the same thing. Here is what I did.
1. It's hard, but start using words like fiddlesticks and poopie instead of cusswords. You are his primary role-model.
2. Ask the people you and he spend time with to do the same.
3. When he's not angry, explain to him that they are naughty words that only big people say, even though they shouldn't. Tell him that he can say them when he is grown, but not now as he is a child. Also inform him that the next time he spits or swears, he will have to bite on a bar of soap.
4. Most importantly, have a bar of nasty-tasting soap ready (usually the flower scented ones that come in gift baskets work best). When he swears or spits (and he will, all boys like to test the limits - I know mine does!! ) get the bar of soap and have him bite down hard on it for about 20 seconds. Keep it handy as you may need to do it more than once. (My son took 3 times). The key is to be consistant, you must follow thru each time he does it.
Good luck!!
2007-03-17 17:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out is the place to start. Let him sit for 2 minutes by himself away from everything. IF that doesn't work, I've used marks on a paper, and after 4 marks, he takes a nap or goes to be early. If he still won't give up, as a last resort, I've smacked my daughter litely in the mouth and told her NO, that is a bad word and we don't use bad words. The fact you actually smacked their mouth is more a shock than a pain. It's the shock that gets them. I'm mom to 3. I had this problem with my middle child.
2007-03-17 16:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he must have heard these words from somewhere, like tv or friends and family, or maybe you and your husband. a child likes to copy what his surrounding people ask. i would have some diciplin. my mom used to make me wash my toung with a bar of soap when i told lies.try that, or hot sauce. agood wack on the butt might just do it(i don't believe in physical punishment-chemically yes.)
i dont know how to stop the spitting but i can tell you that it better stop soon or he WILL be one of those boys who get in trouble at school, and their intellegence wont matter or he could end up in a gang. sometimes a little(or a lot) raise in the voice could do the trick, be stict straight forward and lay down the rules.i wish u the best of luck!!
2007-03-17 16:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if I were you I'd go and find out who is saying these things around him or to him!! He is obviously seeing/hearing people curse and spit. Tell whomever is doing these things that they need to stop, do it on their own time because your 2 year old son is cursing and spitting. Next, you should tell your son its not okay to say those not nice words and spitting is yucky. Spitting can make people sick and tell him that you would never say those not nice words to anyone cause it makes people sad. Hope this helps.
2007-03-17 18:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My little brother, who is 14 now, used to cuss up a storm. My sister had a potty mouth so he got it from her. My mom used to take away a toy and sit him in the corner for however many minutes he is old. He stopped once he didn't have anything to play with.
Good luck
2007-03-17 16:08:52 · answer #6 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the age of 2 he should not of heard this kind of language yet. I would find out the source of this (hopefully its not you) and cut off ties to that person until they change their behavior around him. Kids learn by example and this child has been given a very poor one to follow. Start a system of time out every time he uses a bad word. Be consistent or it will not go away!
2007-03-17 16:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Mia1385 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him think any of this behavior is cute or amusing.You need to set limits and stick to them. You wouldn't let him run into a street with lots of traffic. Part of being a parent is teaching acceptable behavior otherwise you will have big problems down the road.
2007-03-17 16:06:35 · answer #8 · answered by lorraine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 years old and he's talking like that?
Here are my ideas:
1. make sure you and the people in your family don't swear. I learned to stop swearing once I had a child in the house.
2. model good behavior and don't get mad, stay calm
3. don't pay attention when he swears, he will stop it eventually. use positive reinforcement when he talks nicely.
2007-03-17 16:05:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♪ ♫ ☮ NYbron ☮ ♪ ♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should stop it. He has obviously learned how to talk from
the example of his parents.
Remember the phrase: Children live what they learn?
He didn't make up those words by himself.
He heard them and knows how to use them.
Let him know it is wrong, and tell him you were wrong to say them also, and that you are going to stop too.
Make a game out of it. You and him, trying to stop talking that way. He will try and be the winner.
2007-03-17 17:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by SBK . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋