We decided not to pursue anything now but i think he still loves me...?

Question

My best friend and i have been close for about three years. We just recenrtly found out that we feel the same way about each other but decided not to committ to a relationship because it's crazy time in our lives right now. It turns out he's always liked me this whole time and i had no clue. He told me that if he wants something serious and long lasting with me.

Nowadays, he'll "fish" for answers about other guys and always ask, "if i go out with someone, next month, how would you feel..." I keep telling him to do it but why does he care? If he likes the other girl, then he should. This is interesting, then he said, "well, if me and some girl break up, at least i know you'll always be there..." (as a friend)

We have such a cool history together - we've been best friends - can talk to each other about everything and yet this whole time we've liked each other and didn't know.

Does he still love me? and why is he doing this?

yeah he'll be all, "look! other guys are checking you out" and he'll count the guys that check me out..but if i sound serious about a guy (just testing him) he'll be like, "fine go go for it. i'm not stopping you..." but he says it with a bitter tone.

Answer 1

You know why he has chosen not to go out with you? It's because he's scared. He loves the friendship between you both and he's afraid that if he persues a relationship, it may break your friendship up if you two decided to end the relationship. If you want him to be serious about a relationship, you need to say "Look, I like you a lot and I really want us to be more than friends. If you don't want to be then that's it, we can just be friends." If he still says no, then move on, you don't belong to him so he has no right to be jealous! Good Luck!
A.L.