My Brother calls me on the phone TOO MUCH!?

Question

I have a very strange problem...I'm 30 and my brother is 37--I love him and we get along, but I feel that he calls me on the phone way too much. We live about 5 hours away, and he recently got his first cellphone, and he calls me about every 4 days--plus he calls every weekend without fail. I love my brother--but I am getting very annoyed by him! He calls and drones on & on about his church, how he wants a wife, his job--whatever, and he'll talk for hours if I dont stop him..I work full time- and I'm busting my butt trying to start a business, and I dont want to spend my free time talking to him every 3 days or every weekend!.. I TOLD him this, but he got upset saying "we're still family!--and he still keeps calling.

I've started not even answering his calls anymore--but now our Mom is upset with me --and demands that I talk to him when he calls and tells me "call your brother"!!

HOW OFTEN DO YOU SPEAK TO YOUR SIBLINGS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX? AM I WRONG?

Answer 1

Accept his calls when you can. Your brother is lonely and the church is obviously not helping him find one. You are family and he's depending on you during this tough time. Be selective on what calls to take and ignore your mom's complaining. You are not completely not taking his calls, but you are going to start taking control of your life and how much your brother and mother should be having in it. Do it nicely, politely, without arguing or getting into things. Give your brother a half hour, time him, let him get out everything from his system. Don't offer advice, just listen and go "uh huh" or "hmmm" every couple of minutes, just so he knows you're listening and let him keep on venting. When the 1/2 hour is up, tell him another call is on the line, you will call him tomorrow or Tuesday, and then KEEP that promise and call him, let him vent another half hour, same thing, then "gotta go, call me Sunday at 3 pm" and be there for the call. Eventually stretch the time to the point that you will have him on the phone a half hour once a week. See where I'm going? That way everyone's happy including you.

Answer 2

I dont see anything wrong with him calling every 4 days and on the weekend IF the calls are limited to about 15- 20 minutes. But hours is just ridiculous.
Youre going to have to be more assertive about telling him you have things you need to get done after about 15 minutes of talking. He probably wont understand it until he has a family and he is busy. Just tell him he has way more free time than you do and that he needs to use his time on a girlfriend and not you.

Answer 3

This is so funny because my sister-in-law was the same way..notice the key word..WAS. She would call my husband, her brother every freakin' day. Then when we were out as a family, she would call and leave one voicemail message and then hang-up messages like every 30 minutes until we got home. We wouldn't be in the house 15 minutes and the phone would ring.

She got mad when he told her not to call too! Then one day he told her that we, (myself and my husband) want to spend more time together and that he would appreciate it if she wouldn't call so much. She hit the roof and he hasn't talked to her in almost 2 years.

Answer 4

Aw, he's just lonely. My older brother can never call because he has no phone. He is 23 and I am 21. We haven't spoken since I was 17 because he can't afford a computer or a phone. I just found out last month through another family member that he joined the army and is going to Iraq. Count yourself lucky you have that kind of relationship.

Answer 5

i'm sorry approximately distinctive those demanding haters leaving undesirable comments however the Jonas Brothers do call lower back yet many times no longer as themselves... it rather is a recording! was hoping this helped!!

Answer 6

You are in control over your phone and have the right to decide who to talk to and when. Next time your mom tells you that, demand that she call your brother and talk to him. Tell her, "Call your son!!"

Answer 7

it seems tht ur brother cares 4 u a lot n u hv a important place in his life thts y he keeps callin...... try 2 understnd him or if it annoys u so much thn tell him tht if he really cares 4 u thn he wont call u so frequently....i hope he wil understnd....