my mom is mad at me, and its my brithday. i dont know what to do. she yelled because i didn't take her advice. I just got a new computer and she wanted me to press a certain softwear button and i yelled at her because i was afraid she pressed the wrong one. so she freaked out and left. i tried apalogizing to her but she didnt accept it and she went upstairs and went to sleep. my friends are coming over in an hour and i don't know what i should do, please help me!.
2007-03-17 08:38:23 · 18 answers · asked by aminallover29 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Well if you guys are arguing over something that stupid... you sound like me and my mom! My mom and I have never gotten along that well (I'm 21 now), and we still irritate each other. I guess what I'm getting at is maybe you weren't arguing with her because you were mad, but maybe because you were irritated with her. I'm not sure how old you are, but maybe some family counseling will help? Don't get me wrong, I'm sure you love your mom and you would do anything for her, but that doesn't mean you don't irritate each other. Apologize to her and tell her that you over reacted, and you were just irritated, and you know that's no excuse, but maybe you guys could go to family counseling to learn how to deal with your frustrations better, and try not to make it sound like it's all her, or she'll just be offended and not listen. Let it go until it's time to talk about it. It's your birthday, go have some fun!
2007-03-18 07:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can tell you that if your Mom got you the computer for your birthday she is probably feeling as if you didn't appreciate the gift and she was just trying to help you and she was just excited about giving you something cool like that. When you apologize tell her you know you weren't considerate of her feelings, and that you are sorry and that you really like the gift and you would like for her to know how much you love her. I am a Mom, and my son is 15 and I know how it is to feel unappreciated. When you kids become teenagers you start to drift away from what used to be a strong bond between mother and child, you need us less and less and it seems the only things we can do is be there when you say you need us, leave you alone when you don't and once in a while buy you cool things that make you, if for only a moment think we are cool too! So that is probably how she feels and understanding that will make your apology more sincere.
2007-03-17 10:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Shae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two have issues other then this. It is never okay to yell at your mother and you probably made her feel like a failure as a parent because you are so disrespectful to her. Getting older also means that you need to learn how to keep your emotions in check and deal with a difficult situation in a responsible, productive manner.
I suggest you show her your sorry by makeing her role as a mother a little easier. She was trying to throw you this party and you ended up yelling at her right before. Leave her be, have you fun with your friends while you Mom gets a little nap and time to calm down. Then you clean up after your friends and maybe cook your mom a nice dinner to say thanks for giving birth to me and taking care of me and loving me for all these years. This is just as much her day as it is your. It's the day her dreams came true and her life was fulfilled. Let her relive those memories instead of the frustration she's now feeling.
2007-03-17 09:22:26 · answer #3 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should give a couple of minutes to cool off. Then you should go and try to apologize again. You guys got mad at something that it was not even worth it arguying about. Listen to what she has to say and tell her how it made you feel. This always work for me when my mom and I get mad. I believe that being able to listen and understand, but most importantly respect each others point of view is the best way to have a good relationship with your parents.
2007-03-17 08:47:28 · answer #4 · answered by Araceli A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Out of respect for your mother just talk to her when everything is cooled down, and apologize for yelling @ her. I know sometimes with my son I yell @ him for no reason especially if I am doing something.
2007-03-17 09:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by ruthie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moms eventually forgive and forget. As for now (i know this isn't easy)just try to have as much fun as possible with your friends. Eventually after your friends leave, try to get your mom's attention and then make your best ability to talk to her....
Trust me I know how you feel, my step-mom and I are back and forth fighting all the time...
2007-03-17 08:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by LoveHope 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll eventually settle down and then you can talk to her. let her know why you yelled at her and that your sorry for yelling. she might just be upset that your getting older and won't always ask her for advice or help.
2007-03-17 08:43:02 · answer #7 · answered by Kytten 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her get over it. You totally hurt her feelings man and you cant just say sorry, especially if she was just trying to help you. let her know that you really feel shitty about treating her like that.( im pretty sure shes the one that got you the computer in the first place.)
2007-03-17 09:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by JUDAS RAGE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your mom is a softy. I would of got punched in the face for that. Just avoid her at all costs. You should be ashamed. She done brught you a new computer and you're disrespecting her. She needs to take the computer back, that's what my mom would of did.
2007-03-17 12:11:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dang. That's tough. Sounds like a mom thing. I suspect, however, that she is mad at herself for arguing with you on your birthday. There is also the possibility that she doesn't want you to grow up!
2007-03-17 08:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Bri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋