Should I tell a a girl I'm a virgin before having sex (in case I suck), or should I wait 'til after (in case I'm actually decent)? I honestly don't know. And I am a guy, so there is no misunderstanding.
2007-03-17 08:18:00 · 10 answers · asked by crabdog62482 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would tell her before. the first time and even the next few times is going to be different and unexpected things might happen so i would let her know-open communication my friend-its the only way!!
2007-03-17 08:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by katie c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are intimate enough to contemplate having sex, you should be intimate enough to discuss your situations beforehand. Otherwise, don't do it.... you're not ready. And don't be hung up on being "good" or not. Yes, technique is involved, but sex is mostly about sharing.
If your main fear is cumming too soon (which is common in young males), have a mutual masturbation or oral session that leads to BOTH of you having an orgasm... prior to the actual intercourse. After a brief interlude of rest and relaxation, you can resume sexual activity without as much pressure.
2007-03-17 08:25:19 · answer #2 · answered by Kia A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In case of doubt, communicate.
You're surely at an age were she's nervous too.
If you're worried that you'll scare her off, then wait until she has her clothes off before telling her. :) But yes -- communicate.
It is NOT your sole responsibility to make sex good for both of you. Sex is a partnership activity.
2007-03-17 11:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it would be best so that way if she is experienced she could help you. Don't be silent and not tell her because she will think you are experienced and say wow this guy sucks. Its your first time OK the first time always sucks anyway
2007-03-17 08:22:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her. She will appreciate your honesty if she is a good person, and she will be ok with it. If she isn't ok or is disrespectful, then she isn't worth your time. Any one who makes fun of their partner for being a virgin is a waste of time. good luck, and just tell the truth!
2007-03-17 08:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want a guy to be honest with me before. And it really isnt just in case your bad/good. Its just i prefer honesty.
2007-03-17 08:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would actually tell her because then @ least your honest!
and she will respect that you told her and not tried to hide it!
i went out wid this guy for ages and when we had sex he got really pissed off that i haddent told him that i was a virgin!
2007-03-17 08:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by amz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE YOU SHOULD THERE IS NO SHAME IN THAT . tHEY ACTUALLY LIKE VIRGINS MORE EVEN DO THEY MIGHT PRObably suck. After if you think you will not suck .....
2007-03-17 08:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by universe man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell the truth
2007-03-17 08:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be painfully obvious.
2007-03-17 08:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋