advice obviously please?

Question

we would like a baby, we already have a 23 month old. we both work (so welfare parents are not the issue). but we worried bout how our toddler would react and about our financial circumstances. should we go for it

at the moment we dont pay for child care as me and a friend look after each others 2 yr olds on our days off my husband has her on his morning off and the grans are obliging to mornings a week thank you

Answer 1

do you think MOST of the mothers these days can afford it? if everyone waited hun no one would be having kids

if you feel its right and can cope with 2 small children go for it, children cope very well hun,especially Young ones as they dont really know whats going on

best of luck

Answer 2

I have a 27 month old and we are expecting a baby in July. As for the toddler just involve them a lot. I refer to my belly belly as baby or little sister. He doesn't quite get the whole concept yet though. I also take out his baby book and we look at the baby pictures. Does your child have a chance to interact with children their own age? If not maybe join a play group so they can interact with kids of all different ages. When they get older and able to understand more explain how important it is that they are going to be a big brother or sister and say how much you are going to need their help. Give them a job after you have the baby like ask them to hand you the diaper or the baby socks this way they feel like they are helping.

Answer 3

Only you know your financial situation. I presume you pay for childcare while you work? Will you be able to afford childcare for both children if you have another baby? I wouldn't worry about how the 23 month old is going to react. Even if you got pregnant straight away, the toddler is going to be nearly 3 years old by the time the baby is born. Having a sibling is wonderful.

Answer 4

If you feel the time is right to make another addition to your family then go for it.......money isn't the be all and end all, if you have a loving family that brings you much happiness then I'm sure you can 'muddle on through' if it does mean you have to tighten your belts a little.

As for your other child, make them feel a very important part of the pregnancy, and get them involved with a toddler group so they understand mixing with other children. Good luck x

Answer 5

The toddler will adjust and in the long run be happier for having another sibling. Financially we will always ask can we afford another baby no matter how much we earn. If you want another baby you will find a way to manage so go for it

Answer 6

As long as you make your toddler feel involved when you are pregnant, by letting him/her feel the baby kick etc and once the baby is born let them help, Im sure they will be fine, it doesnt matter what age gap there is - they feel insecure at times - I should know, I have 4.

Answer 7

well you already have one child so you should already have all the major items bought like a crib and so forth and by the time the second one is born the first one should be out of diapers. If you breast feed it won't cost anything for formula.your child care is already taken care of. Do you receive maternity leave payments? have you got a few extra dollars saved?

Answer 8

If you want another baby I don't see why you shouldn't have another one. You sound like you're financially set if you both have jobs. I think your other child would be excited, they usually do get excited about having a little baby brother or sister.

Answer 9

You can always afford it in the end,your toddler would love the company as we are social animals and not designed to be alone

Answer 10

Of course you should go for it!
You can never, ever, afford to have children, but everyone manages. And your eldest will thrive with the company of a sibling.
Stop worrying, and go for it!