Knowing what you now know, if you had to do it again, would you "roll the dice" and still have kids?

Question

I love my children and am a devoted parent. But knowing what I now know, if I were looking forward at the possibility of having two abstract children (not the ones I already have and love), I would take a pass. Parenting can be so miserable--especially when you're trying to do the very best for those children you love so much.

Answer 1

Yes. Yes. Yes. A thousand times yes.
Parenting can be lonely, it can be draining and infuriating and wrenching....but that's the point. The act of parenting is the act of loving-all those little craptacular things you never imagined yourself doing (fighting the urge to cream a third grader who bullies your son, clapping and singing potty songs to coerce your daughter into "pooping in the big-girl potty", laughing at farts, cleaning up vomit in the middle of the night, crying at your baby's first shots)...
It all sucks so much and there's nothing in the world I'd trade it for.
Being the mother of my two kids is the greatest gift I could ever imagine - their presence in my world has shown me strength I never knew I had and weakness I never wanted to see. Caring for them has taught me the meaning of altruism. I see tomorrow and yesterday in them...
So yes.

Answer 2

You bet I would...I would also actually "TRY" having them sooner. Whether parenting is miserable or not is up to the parent to decide...Life is what YOU make it...make any part of it miserable and it certainly will be. There was no part of my being a parent that was miserable...Nope it wasn't always rainbows and lollipops but I took each phase with a positive attitude and found that even the terrible twos and the horrific teens could be more fun and less stressful that way.

Answer 3

In a flash i would.. anything worth having is worth the fight.. all the hardships and miseries are made worth it with just one i love you at bedtime or some ill made mothers day gift from school, all the drawings on the fridge and can i sleep with you mom. and most of all looking in the face of something so perfect that was heaven sent and wrapped in the sweetest smell of innocent and fits in your arms so perfect, how could i not want to do that again?

Answer 4

My child isn't a problem her no good father is but I am reaping all the rewards. I would have chosen another man who is more responsible but that's beside the point it is what it is. Single parenting can be overwhelming but I don't have any real complaints God never gives us more than we can handle. I love my daughter she is my pride and joy. Parenting is a blessing in my opinion nothing else will ever make me as happy or proud as motherhood "Motherhood... What a glorious career!"

Answer 5

Yes, I would take the chance. There are some bad days & some good. I would prob do things a little differently, but, for me, roll that dice, baby 'cause my babies always make me feel like a winner!

Answer 6

This is an impossible question to answer.
If I knew then, what I know now, then I would probably still have my children, but so many other things would change, it is not always the children, but the situation we would change.

Answer 7

I definately would, no matter how tired I am or worn out from being a parent there are still the times, one hug, one word of encouragement from them, makes it all worth it. And there is always someone glad your around.

Answer 8

I would totally do it again. Yes, there are hard parts about parenting (as with anything worth doing), but the rewards are so much greater.

Answer 9

I have one child with Aspbergers (a form of Autism) and one with ADHD. Would I "roll the dice again" .... HELL YEAH! I Love my children, even with their "quirks" and wouldn't change anything about them

Answer 10

I would so do all of it over again. I dont have regrets as far as my children go. I love them very much and would do it ten times over. Even the bad days.........lol