I cut myself recently and though I could trust my boyfriend to keep my secret...?

Question

I have had a cutting problem for a few years now... almost 3 years actually. I haven't cut for over almost 6 months. I just started taking zoloft for antianxiety and I've been feeling more and more depressed, I recianly told my boyfriend of two years that I started cutting again. He told me that he wanted a break untill i got help. I trusted him to help me out durring this rough time, some way to show he cares... cut me out of his life completly... what should I do? I already notified my doctor about feeling depressed while on the meds. so I'm going off them tomorrow... but I don;t feel comfterble talking to anyone about my cutting problem. and I refuse to do so... I think that getting off the meds. is enough help for me... what do you think of this?

Answer 1

If you don't want a reality check, don't read any further.

I think you're being ridiculous. I understand WHY, but I still think it's ridiculous. You should not go off your meds - maybe get them adjusted or try others - but not go off completely - it takes time. And you might have been getting more depressed lately, but it's not necessarily from the meds - what else changed in your life (even something small)? CONGRATS on not cutting for 6 months - NOW DO IT AGAIN! I don't know how long you were with your boyfriend, but I think he is right to drop you IF you are doing what you are doing - choosing to cut, instead of asking for help, choosing to go off meds, instead of giving them time to work (or the doc time to find the right medication), choosing not to talk about, and choosing to know that just going off the meds is not enough help for you, yet doing it anyway.

Notice all the choices you are making? If your loved one, a child,. a parent, a sibling, your boyfriend was cutting themself, what would you want and/or expect them to do? I don't think you would want them to make the choices you are making, would you?

Answer 2

Zoloft is an SSRI, therefore it is indictated for the treatment of both anxiety and depression. It sounds like you have had depression all along, but the anxiety masked it. My best friend has this same problem, and according to her so do I (we have debates over whether or not I have anxiety with my depression). Anyway, when the zoloft took away the anxiety, your depression manifested. Going off the meds is only going to bring back the anxiety to mask the depression. Instead of going off of the meds completely, I suggest you increase your dose, or change to a different medication. I am on a combination of Effexor XR, and Lexapro, and my best friend takes Cymbalta. As for the cutting, you have to be ready to stop cutting before you will. I use to cut as well, and when my mom found out (on accident) I got chewed out. I was pretty good at hiding it too! He might be trying the tough love thing, although I have found it doesn;t always work. Try to figure out what happens before you cut. Do you have a fight with someone? Are you extremely stressed out? My "trigger" was extreme anxiety and anger towards a few people. After I figured it out, I was able to control those feelings, and stop cutting. I haven't cut in almost 2 years! I did go to therapy for a while when I was in college. It helped a lot, having someone on your side, there to listen and not be biased. I don;t suggest going to friends or family, because they probably won't understand. If you want to talk to someone who has been where you are, feel free to talk to me!

Answer 3

Maybe instead of just getting off meds, you should ask your doctor what else you can take to help you not cut. Also, I know several people that cut that go to group therapy
(yes, many people do it). You don't have to talk until you feel comfortable. Unfortunately, most people don't understand anything outside the norm concerning mental health and when they hear something they think is not the norm they react by running away. That just shows you what a little person he is-you don't need him. There is somebody out there that cares about you and is more supportive than that person.

Answer 4

i am glad to hear that you are communicating with your doctor about your depression. this is a good first step.
also, i am sorry that your boyfriend opted to take a break instead of supporting you when you really need it. if he is the type of guy who is going to run away from things that are difficult for him to face, find another who will stay by you no matter what. it is possible that this is just too much for him to deal with, but if he cares about you, he will be there for you while you are getting help . you deserve that.

PLEASE tell someone who you can trust and who will be supportive about the cutting. this is serious. your doctor will not bite your head off if you share this with him/her, and i PROMISE, doctors have seen more than just one patient in a similar situation as you.

just know that you are not alone in any of this (not at ALL) , but take the time to find the help and support you need. you WILL get through it, and there ARE better times ahead. :)

Answer 5

You need help. Try to get some counseling. If the medication doesn't work, try a different one. There are so many good medications on the market, one of them will be right for you. It took me ten years of trial and error to finally find a cocktail that works for me with my bipolar disorder. As a side note, Zoloft is a relatively old medication. In the past year about a half dozen have come out to replace it.

Answer 6

This is a huge problem, several of them as a matter of fact. Number one, get over feeling uncomfortable telling someone about your cutting. You need to confide in a professional, not a boyfriend. Secondly, It's not up to him to support you in this. You have to get your life straight before someone else can share it with you. Third, Consult your doctor before you stop the meds. You can't just stop certain anti-depressants, you have to get off gradually. Get your doc to suggest a psychologist. You need help.

Answer 7

Hi, dear I say this to everone that I answer a question to.Your question is very commo0n in my life . when we find something to hurt ourselves we think it is our buddy but it isnt because our friends and buddy do not do these things unless we have a mental illness that we can not endure. Going off your meds is a slow process because we think we are going to get better but it gets worse ,if your doctor is good then tell him ,he is not allowed to call your mom or dad , this stuff is privacy i found this out during on of my daughters attemped suicide .

Answer 8

I understand and I support your boyfriend. If you refuse to talk to anyone about your cutting, then he did the right thing. Because you refuse to get help, you are toxic...the whole relationship. If you were seriously getting help, he probably would have supported you. It's almost impossible to stay with someone when they are so self-destructive. You would end up taking him down too.

Answer 9

Cutting yourself and creating a visual sign of your inner pain is not going to be solved by keeping your problems to yourself and going off meds.
Please consult your doctor, your family, your friends. Find out why you need to act out on your pain and injure yourself. There is help for you if you seek it out.

Answer 10

talk to me i wil listen [e-mail] as a stranger. call also 1800 dont cut