The first letter is what I wrote at first. but I'm not sure about it. I want her back but I don't want to make her think I'm weak or obsessive or anything because it's long. I also want to be honest. The second letter came from someone who shortened it for me, and I like it and I think it would work but the problem is that I didn't write it. Which should I use? Here's the first one:
2007-03-17 08:04:06 · 12 answers · asked by Icebox -0: Never Again 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey. How are you? You know, ever since we stopped talking, (we haven't talked for 10 months) I had been going over everything in my head, trying to figure out what I was doing wrong. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. It was because of you that I started working on those things. I know you probably still don't want to talk to me. It's just that a special girl like you is hard to find, you're unlike any friend I've ever had. No other girl is as amazing, wonderful, smart, talented, funny, and beautiful as you. No one else has your light brown eyes that sparkle when you're happy and fade away when you're sad, or your bright smile. There was a time when I was feeling down that you could tell something was wrong because you know me. I'm the same way about you. I know you think I don't know you, and I know I don't know everything about you, but I want to know everything about you. I really care about you and like I said, you're
2007-03-17 08:04:25 · update #1
special to me. I'm tired of playing silly games around you, trying to act like you're not when you really are. Without you, I just had to admit that I must be really stupid for not understanding then what you were trying to tell me, that it wasn't anything wrong with me that you didn't like, it was you just didn't share those feelings for me that I had for you.
I've found out for myself it was better when you didn't like me in that way. Now that you don't like me at all, it's alot worse. For the things I've done, I'm really sorry. I was just afraid of losing you, so I did. I only want us to start over, pretend this whole thing never happened and if necessary forget that there was any mention of romantic interest between us. I know with you I don't have a chance. I just want your friendship back, if it's ok with you. (END) (continues If sent in a letter) If writing this to you makes how you feel about me worse, then if you'd like to, just forget that I wrote it.
2007-03-17 08:04:39 · update #2
If what you want is to never see me or speak to me again, I will just try to let you go just because I only want to make you happy. (END of 1st letter)
Here's the second one, the one I didn't write, but it's shorter
Hey. How are you? You know, ever since we stopped talking, I realized how much I missed you. I still remember what you said to me the last time we talked, the things you were mad at me about. I've really grown and worked on things to improve my life. I'll understand if you still think you made the best decision by breaking up with me, but I know that a special girl like you is hard to find. I'm grateful that you know me better than anyone else. I know that we had our ups and downs, and I would really like to work on things and get to know you again. I think there is a lot that we can learn about one another. I will respect whatever decision you make. Take care. (END of 2nd letter)
So, what do I do? Maybe I should switch sentences around? I'm 17, she turns 17 in two weeks
2007-03-17 08:06:24 · update #3
The second one is better, because it is still in essence what youv'e been saying.... And it is short and to the point... I think the second one will be the most effective. Good Luck on this very st. patrick's day... and coming from a part irish person... I wish you the luck of the irish!
~Tati
2007-03-17 08:54:53 · answer #1 · answered by larua_2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend, I tell you this not maliciously, but in concern for one of my brothers:
Let it go.
10 months is not a period of reflection time, she has no desire to talk to you. Any letter you send is going to make you more pathetic. That letter is going to get shown to all of her friends and they will laugh about it and you. I'm sure you have this vision that she will read the letter and call you in a mature and rational manner to discuss, but you do not take into account that women (especially high school aged women) are rarely mature or rational. Let it go. It may not seem like it at 17, but there will be others, more attractive ones that actually want to spend time with you. What you should be worrying about now is your schoolwork and becoming a man that doesn't need a woman to be happy. If you're not happy with yourself, you can't expect anyone else to be happy with you.
2007-03-17 15:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is sweet .. but i think the problem between you and your girlfriend .. wouldn't be solved by this letter .. i think you need something more .. show her that you really meant what you wrote !! dang .. 10 months is a long time !! you sure she still shares the same feelings as you ? if then .. then i think you should give her the first letter .. and prove to her that you did change .. the first one is longer . and she'll appreciate the time and effort you spent writing that letter ! good luck !
2007-03-17 15:28:17 · answer #3 · answered by krzy qt 911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the letter you wrote is best. It came from your heart and says what you're really thinking and feeling. No one else can capture that in a letter, you're the only one who can tell her how you feel. Your best chance of getting her friendship back is by telling her yourself, she won't think you're clingy or needed just because the letter is long, it says what you're really feeling, so it's ok. Good luck, Mandy
2007-03-17 15:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl_mandy523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first one is really sweet and you wrote it yourself, other than the second one. I think you should give her the first one because it comes straight from your heart and soul. And even though it's long, I don't think it means you're obsessive. Just that you really love this girl.
I wish you good luck with that girl. =)
2007-03-17 15:10:59 · answer #5 · answered by ¥§Anaşia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like this letter. I would take out the part about you not having a chance with her because it sounds like you have no self-esteem.
But the letter sounds sincere and in the end all you have is honesty.
2007-03-17 15:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by teena9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use letter #2, and later you can give her #1 when you get back together! If you use #1 first it comes off as too desperate (but sweet) cause it is longer.
2007-03-25 05:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by Runnin for my life '73 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first one is way too long and it does sound obsessive so i would send the second one if i were you. I would know because I'm a girl.The first one is awesome but its way too long and you don't want to bore her.
2007-03-25 12:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by ricanbonita04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like the 2ND one more but because you didn't write it use the one you wrote it will mean more to her
2007-03-25 02:24:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the 2nd letter is way much better,shorter=clearer=more efficient.Good luck;)
2007-03-17 15:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by valerie_adele 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋