I have a lover, who is a lover and nothing more. In the beginning, I did want something more. But I gave that up, when I realised he just wanted the physical. I do have some feelings for him. Lately he's not been treating me with respect. And I've realised that he thinks I'll always meet him anyway. I've decided not to, to stop seeing him. And to be short when he texts me and tell him that I don't have time. That will teach him a lesson, cause we both know it will be hard for him to find someone else, and he knows it won't be hard for me to find someone new. Do you have any other suggestions about what I should do?
2007-03-17 07:57:57 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say not to let yourself get bitter. And another thing, you need to get as far away from this guy as possible. Instead of saying you don't have time, don't respond at all. It'll drive him crazy (which is kinda satisfying sometimes) and then he'll realize that you don't want him anymore and he'll stop calling/texting you. But from what you said, it seems that you may not be ready to give him up. I think you need to sit down and think about whether you are willing to be just lovers with him (and from what you wrote at first you are not, but you slowly creep down to "oh, it will teach him a lesson."
Is it possible that you think this "lesson" will make him respect you and want to be with you?
He knows what he wants. All he wants is the physical. But you seem to just want him. Almost as if it doesn't matter if he doesn't want a relationship as long as he's around. Are you fooling yourself into thinking that sooner or later he'll realize that you're the greatest thing in his life and he can't believe how he treated you.
I'm not saying that won't happen, but it most likely won't. He knows what he wants. Now you need to decide whether you can live with it, because like it or not, he probably won't change.
2007-03-17 08:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to teach him a lesson by doing that crap. He won't know why you are acting weird if you don't tell him. Talk to him about it, and if he is still a jerk get rid of him. I would personally leave someone that treated me like that. Find feelings for someone else
2007-03-17 15:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Life Is Illusive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to ask yourself some questions.
1. What do you expect from the relationship?
2. Are you looking for a phuk buddy or something more.
It sounds like you want a long term relationship. To me it seems like your friend is seeing how badly he can treat you before you call it quits.
2007-03-17 15:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by lawjaq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's taking you for granted. Just tell him flat out that you have more respect for yourself than that, and you've decided to end your physical relationship.
Then take yourself out for a spa day, and enter the singles scene with a whirl. There are indeed men out there who are looking for committment and a relationship, so have fun looking!
2007-03-17 15:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about him if he just wants physical and nothing more than whats the point in staying with him. is it really worth it your just going to be sad all the time and it sounds to me like he treating you like a cheap hussy. men are a dime a dosen girl go find one thats right for you dont let this twirp hold you down
2007-03-17 15:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by kitty45342 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a real mean one but not lover coz he never started to have these precious feelings of love but he was mean and down to some degraded creatures needing to misuse and abuse you ... so ignoring him totally is the best slap on a mean's face!
Brave Gurl!!!
2007-03-17 15:03:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sara007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on right track avoid him at all costs. Once he lost respect for you the sexual relationship ended too. Don't let him continue to take advantage of you knowing you want more. You deserve better. He can't have his cake and eat it too.
2007-03-17 15:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by Aphreakywuman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but umm did you know your cheating on a person? You said this guy is a lover and nothing more. Kick him to the curb.
2007-03-17 15:00:55 · answer #8 · answered by gottalot2learn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do wot u have said you are going to do and then maybe he will treat the next girl with a little more respect. i think it is time men realize that women are not dolls and that we have feelings.
2007-03-17 15:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go and may you go on and find someone that will treat you like a lady. Best of luck.
2007-03-17 15:03:18 · answer #10 · answered by Dallas S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋