My little one and only son is 30 months. He is such a good boy at home. But in public its such another story. He totally sometimes, most of the time ... wont stand still and be good. He wants to run circles everywhere... What can I do to help him understand to be good?
2007-03-17 07:42:20 · 13 answers · asked by smilingontime 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
whereever you're going, here's a good tip.
i read this in a magazine, this mom goes grocery shopping with her kids...
she said that whenever she goes, she keeps a sheet of those foil star stickers in her coupon purse.
she puts three stickers on one hand for each child.
each time they misbehave during the shopping trip, she takes away a sticker.
by the end of the trip, if they still have at least one star left they get a special treat.
2007-03-17 07:51:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you keep him (buckled) into a stroller or else buy one of those long tethers that you put one end onhis wrist and one end on yours. Some people will give you a hard time by saying things such as "why do you have your child on a Leash?" Well when my daughter was young she was also a "runner". With the stroller and/or wrist teather I always knew where she was..........she was safe. At 2 years old you cannot appeal to his logic. He is incapable of understanding. Mom has to do thinking for him.
2007-03-17 14:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by carnivale4ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to "understand" He is not of an age to understand the concept of "good" and "bad". Simply tell him that if he doesn't behave you will take him home and leave him with a sitter and he will never be able to go out in public with you until he learns how to behave, then STICK TO IT. My daughter acted up ONCE at a mall. I promptly took her home, luckily her father was there, I put him in charge and I went back to the mall to finish my shopping. Whenever I wanted to go shopping or to lunch with friends I would find someone to sit with her for a couple of hours. After about 6 months she was able to convince me that she would never act up again and she's been going to the mall with me ever since...she is now 21 years old.
2007-03-17 14:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well some stores have those carts that look like cars, maybe u can rent one. I find those to help me with my two girls (4,3). I've been doing that for my oldest for about 2 years and it seems to help. If not take a notebook and a pen and let him draw in it. My girls do that sometimes. If the cart is big enough on the bottom let him sit on the bottom and tell him your going to take him for a "ride." If not let him get in between you and the basket and tell him to be a big boy and help you push the basket. I've done these things with my girls since they were about 2 and it seemed to help me out a bit.
2007-03-18 02:09:13 · answer #4 · answered by vanessa h 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's only a toddler. He's supposed to run around in circles. He is not bad. Please do not tell a child he is bad either. The teacher says he's not standing still and is having a problem with it? I think the teacher has a problem. It is perfectly normal for a toddler to not stand still for a long period of time. If you are still concerned with his behavior maybe ask him instead of running around the class to use his walking feet, which you have to use inside so you won't fall and get boo boos. Try that.
2007-03-17 18:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Start by telling him before you leave home you need him to be a good boy and stand still. Keep telling him it's important he stand still and be a good boy for mommy. He will understand it. Also make sure he has his favorite small toy with him to keep him occupied. Remind him if he doesn't stand still, and be a good boy, he will have a time out when he gets home. When he starts misbehaving, get down to his level and tell him, mommy told you , you need to be a good boy and stand still. Ask him to point out animals, or the color blue. Ask him if he sees a dump truck. Anything to keep him distracted long enough for you to finish what you need to. One I used in the car to get the two youngest ones to behave and sit still was to tell them the news said a BIG PINK elephant and a polka dotted monkey were seen out and about and if you spot them, please call. We'd look every time we got in the car. If they started getting restless with it, I'd shout OH MY I think I saw them in the trees over there..or In that bus that just went by. It worked.lol.
2007-03-17 16:19:46 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep him in the cart, bring a snack, or a book with your name in the cover. I think having a talk with him before you go in the store helps, and just tell him if he does not behave the store can kick you out, I dont think that is being mean or trying to scare him, it is simply telling him how to act in public places. You can also play I Spy with things in the store, tell him to look for something red etc.
2007-03-17 14:50:50 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 3.5 year old. Always keep toys with you, like little cars. Use the stroller as much as possible. Give them toys and snacks. Make the going out experience fun for all of you.
2007-03-17 19:16:48 · answer #8 · answered by njyecats 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also struggle with the same thing. Love and Logics is a great book to read. It helps gives us suggestions on how to communicate in a positive way! I would check it out.
For now however. Bring him out a few times...just you two. With no other intentions. Go to the store...or the park. And teach him how to act in public. When you have 50 things on your list...the best sure plan is stick a sucker in there mouth and have gummy bears in your pocket for emergency. So this way you can focus on him. Get him involved in the shopping. Have him pick the item off the shelf for you and put it hin your cart. If he trys to run. Get on his level and say. You can either walk on the ground or sit in the cart. (or carry him if no cart) He will want to walk....but when he runs...say "oh I"m sorry...I told you that you could walk next to me...or be in the cart...but since you ran away you will have to sit in the cart." If he keeps crying in the cart then you tell him "Isn't it sad that you have to sit in the cart. If you would of walked next to me you would not have to be here" If it gets bad then you leave. Explaining. "You did not want to walk next to me, and its hard for me to shop when you are crying in the cart so I guess we will go home..." Then next time you leave to go run errands you tell him "Mommy has to go by herself because remember last time you cried and would not walk next to me." Then you leave him with a babysitter. Then when you feel up to it you try the process over. The whole objective is to have your toddler become aware of his actions...and not be mad at you...be mad at his own actions and want to do better. We can take the easy way out...by popping a sucker in there mouth or giving them tons of snacks to hold them over...but sometimes they are not always availble..so why not help them and teach them the approriate way. They are smarter then we think. Good luck! Check out the Love and Logics book!
2007-03-17 16:05:23 · answer #9 · answered by Roxy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he likes the attention he gets when hes naughty.whenever he does something good,reward him by clapping or give him a treat.when hes naughty just say to him in a stern voice no.he will soon learn the difference from right and wrong.its just a phase.he will soon grow out of it.
2007-03-17 15:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by fantasia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋