Parents...?

Question

Would you be angry with your Mum if she was going on Holiday and didnt tell you? Also leaves you home alone for days because she has a new boyfriend and is only ever at home to get clothes and to go to work.

Answer 1

Nope.. I would enjoy the freedom when she was gone. She has the right to live her own life too.

Answer 2

Its hard to know whether you should be angry or deeply concerned as I do not know how old you are. If you are under 16, then she should be ashamed of herself and the authorities should be informed, tell a relative, an adult at school, a doctor, anyone, as you could be at risk, if you are over sixteen then sure, be angry, if you share living space together, it is commond courtesy at least to inform your housemates when you will and will not be at home, for whatever reason. And thats if you are not related. I can understand you being angry, but if this is the way she is and has always been, for your own sake, don't try and understand or change her, because you will become more hurt in the process, just concentrate on running your own life and not counting on her for maternal support, ensuring that you go as far as you can go as a person so that you can give your own child so much more when you have children. Do not for a second take responsibility for her inadequacies. None of this is your fault, she is the mother and it is her responsibility and duty to care for you. It doesnt mean she doesn't love you, just that there are probably many complex reasons that she is unable to demonstrate this. It must be painful for you, and lonely when she is not there and that pain must make you feel angry.

You could try talking to her, but make sure you do so without sounding angry or accusing her, just tell her that you felt hurt when she didn't tell you she was going away, and that you are sad that you and she no longer spend any time together and that you would like to when she returns from holiday.

I think her behaviour is apalling and I hope it changes for you both. Please make sure you have plenty of friends and hopefully relatives than can spend time with you and look out for you. Best of luck, please talk to an adult at school about this though, you need proper care and support no matter how well you cope alone. God Bless. x

Answer 3

Well that depends on how old you are. You havent said. If you're under age say, under 18 then she should let you know what she's doing and when she's back. As long as you both are communicating then she's an adult and doing what some adults do. If on the other hand you are underage, then she is being very irresponsible and shouldnt be leaving you alone. There again, you need to let her know that she needs to be more respectful of you and be sure that you are safe and taken care of if she plans to take off like that on a regular basis. But she is being irresponsible if you are underage.

Answer 4

Your mom is acting wrong- some one should wake her up and make her smell the coffee-
As long as children are still at home its our responsibility to see that all their needs are met- and taking care of the kids is an important need- especially if the kids are teens. Its a shame because when a kid comes home with an unwanted pregnancy then we're all weeping and asking- where did we go wrong.
Talk to your mom, if she doesn't listen talk to your aunt or uncle and let them know whats going on and ask if they can help you.

Answer 5

how old are you??

over 16? sit her down and tell her calmly how you feel. ask her to give you some more of her time. perhaps you could have a day that is special to you both and do girly things together.or even a day a fortnight or something.

under 16?

this is against the law and is neglect. you need to talk to someone. maybe a school. another relative that you trust maybe?

Answer 6

I don't think she is a very good mother, leaving you alone! What if something happened? She needs to start looking after her kids not acting like a lovestruck teenager with some new boyfriend.

Answer 7

Yes. Maybe you should try catching her when she does come home. And try telling her that you feel like your not even a part of her life anymore. Just tell her. If she doesn't respond with anything you like. Just try to entertain yourself.

Answer 8

you poor soul, i have 3 kids and if i went on holiday then so would they, i have been in the position after my marriage broke up and years later i met someone but i let him know that i have kids and my life revolves around them, i brought them into this world and anything that involves me involves my kids, you never said what age you are, but no mother should be going on holiday and leaving their kids behind, that is shocking, my kids would never forgive me if i did that to them but it would never cross my mind anyway, take care xx

Answer 9

Hi, Yes i would because if that was you behaving like that she would have something to say. Your mum is supposed to be the adult, and she could be more open and honest with you.

Answer 10

Provided you are at an independant age and not school age then I dont see a massive problem, although it would be nice to be consulted once in a while..

Answer 11

That depends on how old you are... If you are old enough to drive, you can take care of yourself. Your Mum didn't show you much respect. Didn't even think you may be worried.