My Best Friend Just broke up with her bf And i like him What shouold i do?

Question

Cus i think hes gonna ask me out and she asked me not to date him but i really like him!!!

And i think he might ask me out i wanna give her somtime to get over him..But shes Liken the guy i like to Its another boy Not her ex and she knows i liked him But shes Liken him So idk what to do Cus if shes gonna date him then im gonna Date her ex

Answer 1

talk to her about it... thats whats going on with me rit now.. im dating my bfs ex and i dont care what she thinks.. i rely like him..... just do what your heart tells you to do

Answer 2

YOU SHOULD NEVER EVER EVER EVER! IT IS WRITTEN IN THE UNWRITTEN FRIENDS CODE OF CONDUCT HANDBOOK. NEVER DATE YOUR FRIEND'S EX. I think it is so wrong. Most likely she told you about problems that they went through and stuff and that would be really wrong of you. Then she asked you to please don't do it. You are making a BIG MISTAKE if you go out with the boy because all he doing is getting revenge on her through you. Then, he think he is doing something cuz he got the friend and the girl. Why broke up a friendship over someone who most likely don't matter? Think about it.

Answer 3

I think it's great that you are asking for help on this issue. I admire people who think things through and get other people's opinions before they make a decision. It shows responsibility and a depth of character which all people respect.

I understand that this must be really difficult for you. You like him and he seems to like you and it seems to be the opportunity for the two of you to hook up. You also really like your best friend, otherwise you wouldn't call her that. You probably tell her your deepest thoughts and are able to confide in her--- or at least you feel like she understands you, I'm guessing.

One thing I've been learning is how to respect my feelings but yet not let my emotions make the decisions for me. We females have a very difficult time with that. It's just the way we were created. Guys can seem to switch off that emotional switch pretty easily but we women had a harder time with that. Emotions are very good---God created them--- but letting them control us will more often then not, lead ALL of us into trouble. (Think of a parent who gets outrageously upset over something they misunderstood about us and ends up hurting us deeply in the process.) I think that this is an occasion where you can acknowledge that you have these feelings for this guy, and you should talk them out with someone (not your best friend). (www.dmlive.com - the hope line is a great place to go---it's especially created for teens and young adults to talk out their problems with someone who really cares) However, now that we've acknowledged that you have feelings for this guy, let's try to work this out using our intellect.
Everything about this seems pretty good, BUT you have one big red flag---your best friend. What does she mean to you? Has she been there for you in the difficult times? Has she stuck up for you when no one else would? One thing we know for sure is that she asked you not to date him, and if you did go out with him she would feel totally betrayed. You would feel the exact same way if she did that to you. And my guess is that every time you would see her after that you would feel guilty and more and more worse about what you did (think lower self esteem). Also the ironic side effect of doing this is often that the woman who left her best friend for a guy will develop her OWN fear of not trusting other people.

I'm saying all this because I really don't want you to do anything that you will regret later. Hurts last a long time, but guilt lasts even longer. And best friends are really hard to find. I worry that after the buzz of the relationship wears off you will feel pretty bad about yourself and what you did, and I don't want that for you. I want your best friend to know that she can trust you and I want you to feel confident that she would do the same thing for you if you asked her. I would want you to be able to trust YOUR best friend in the most difficult circumstances.

That's what real love is. It is choosing to do the right thing in SPITE of our feelings.

If you decide to do this,
after some time passes and the feelings die away (though you may not feel like they will right now),
you will feel SO proud of yourself and good about what you did (self-esteem booster!) because you would know that you made a good decision and you actually made it through using your intellect and not by your emotions, and that you can do it again. Plus you would have kept your best friend and you would know that YOU also deserve great, awesome friends who would always put you first and never let a guy come between you. I hate to use a familiar saying but it is true---- there are many, many fish in the sea and you will meet other guys who like you and who you like.
This may be the hardest thing you have ever done till now (so again, talk it out) but you will be respected for it and you will feel good about yourself in the end. It's all up to you.

Thanks for reading this.... and Happy St Patrick's Day! I wish you the best.

Answer 4

decide which one is mor eimportant to you but dont forget gys are temporary and friendship is permanent.a guy is not worth ruining your friendship and u have to learn to control your feelings when neccessary
and the guy looks like an asshole u can never ensure he wont do the same to you
and think about how u feel will u b comfortable is it worth it

Answer 5

its really a choice . you have to chose between your friend and a guy. well look at why they broke up and how there relation was like. and the way he acted with and away from her. is that worth more than a friendship with your friend.

Answer 6

If u do tat then u betraying ur best friend. I'm in ta same spot now but i would never do tat 2 my friend.

Answer 7

don't date him best friends don't date their X's. rite now you should talk to her and try to help her through this. if she sees you with him she will probably break down. give her some time.

Answer 8

guys will come and go -- friends are here to stay. trust me!!! you will regret it if you hook up with her man. it may seem like a good idea now, but she will never forgive you.

also, realize if you did hook up with and date this guy -- you'd never trust him around your friends for fear he would do the same thing to you.

Answer 9

if you want to throw away your friendship with her, then go for it. but there a line in friendships that should not be crossed, and dating your friend's x is crossing that line.

Answer 10

don't u dare do that to ur best friend - and if u do, u were never her best friend to begin with, u will only been seen as a tramp.