i'm 16 and she's 22. by the age of 16, i shouldn't be treated like a "baby." for instance when i say my opinion she's always there to say something right in front of everyone like "jenny thinks she's sooo cool." then everyone laughs. i hate that she tries to make me seem rude and selfish in front of others. even when i try not to talk at family dinners, somehow she says something to make me look bad.
i think it might be because she wants to look good in front of my dad. what i mean by that is that when she was my age she was sneaking out, getting in trouble, and her and my dad didn't really get along. i've never done any of that, and i know i won't.
--my question is how can i get others, and my sister to stop treating me like an idiot??? and no, i dont want to take her aside and tell her "you're making me look bad and i dont like it" becuase that will only make her do it more....
2007-03-17 07:16:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm not good at comebacks lol. so if you have anything tell me!
this whole thing is worse when my mom is in the room though, because my mom sides with her and my dad always sides with me.
2007-03-17 07:22:05 · update #1
thats just what we do best
2007-03-17 07:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Lynn D 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK. You really need to let your sister know that her behavior is not OK with you. She may or may not change, but at least she KNOWS!!
This is what I do with people like that who, THEN, refuse to stop behaving that way:
When they make a rude comment, hurt or embarrass me in front of others, I simply say nothing and leave the room...no matter what's happening. Their hurtful words are left hanging in the air and they are left there to explain themselves to the others in the group. They are the ones who then get embarrassed and humiliated and are forced to look at their own behavior. It may take a couple times before she gets it, but she'll get it. Don't worry.
Doing this once is usually sufficient. You might have to do it twice. It may be very difficult or even inconvenient for you, but do it anyway. It pays off.
If your Dad asks why you're doing that, just tell him that you won't accept that sort of behavior from her (or anyone) anymore.
Good Luck, Sweetheart.
2007-03-17 14:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by teensy826 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your sister is very imature, perhaps even jealous of you for some reason. Either way, she needs to grow up and show some respect as I'm sure you deserve it. I bet she's the one who thinks herself is so cool and thats why she acts the way she does. See, she's the idiot hun, not you. Find a way to let it roll off your shoulders, maybe laugh at her when she's up to her nasty remarks, I bet that would really get to her, lol. Give her a taste of her own medicine!! No matter what she says just laugh at her. ((((HUG))))
2007-03-17 14:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am your age and my sister is 26 i think or somewhere around that age. Okay she likes to down me also, loves to tell on me if she heard i did something wrong cuz she doesn't live with me. Anyway she is jealous probably like your sister is at you. She doesn't like the fact that our mom lets me do things that she couldn't do at my age. She hates it when I win awards and get money something that she didn't get. So she tries to talk about me to boost herself up. The best thing to do is to bring up her faults. If she's overweight, call her big bertha, or MOO-MOO. Say things like it's funny how you want to be me so bad you have to talk about me all the time. If she says things bad about you, say at my age what were you doing? Look at her then turn your head. And build your confidence because she's building her's negatively by bashing you so you get self-confidience positively so that you can know what to say when she tries to hurt you. Go Gurl!
2007-03-17 15:07:12 · answer #4 · answered by ADVICEGURL101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a younger sister who is 10 and people say she looks up to me and worships me. I don't think so. She copies my clothes and yet doesn't make any outfits look like mine. In fact, she hates me. I think that your sister is so rude to you because she is tired of the comments people say. For instance, the "Jenny thinks she is so cool" comment probably annoys her and that makes her resent you. To make it stop, you have to go to the root, the comment. Pull her aside and tell her the truth and how you feel. It worked for me.
2007-03-17 14:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lets go 2 Candy Mt. Charlie!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont want to take her aside and tell her "you're making me look bad and i dont like it" becuase that will only make her do it more.... thats just what you have to do. shes your sister I don't think she is that cold hearted to keep pestering you like that. As much as she does it I am sure deep inside she still loves you as a sister. Think about it just talk to her about it don't let it keep bothering you to a boiling point instead talk about it, heck even talk to your parents about it. When I have a problem with my 24 year old brother I tell my dad about it and then he talks to my brother about it so yeah this is family it isn't friends there is a difference as to how she will react to it.
2007-03-17 14:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by David M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing but i was picking on my brother. whenever i went to school i didnt really fit in i wasnt an outcast and i had some friends but when you see someone else having more friends then they and having a good time. they try to make fun of someone so other people can laugh by your jokes. and they have to talk about someone who isnt going to say something back to them or make them feel stupid or rude
2007-03-17 14:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is very jeolous of you..you sound like you are smarter than her and she was always in trouble and you weren't.. she wants to sound smarter cause she is the older one you should talk to her she might be unaware of it and it might make it better oh and with the comebacks i'm not much good with them either but i get the one's i know off films
Hope It Helps!!
2007-03-17 14:41:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it, I know it seems like forever away right now, but you will be 22 yourself in no time at all and none of that will matter anymore. And I know that at 16 to you that is bad advice, but trust me, it really won't matter at all.
2007-03-17 14:21:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the older she gets the more appreciative of you she will be, you seem to be the mature one in the house and she is feeling guilty for all the bad things she did in the past and she wants you to look like she should be looking and your dad know the truth of who is bad andgood /.
2007-03-17 14:22:56 · answer #10 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to ignore her. Her power runs on selfishness and meanness. You assumption is true also. She's a mean idiot if you ask mean.
2007-03-17 14:20:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋