My boyfriend and I were going out for over 2 years and everything seemed perfect. Then one day out of nowhere he says that hes "not attracted" to me anymore. He claims im beautiful there are just some things I do that isn't attractive and he lost that "connection" we had in the beginning of the relationship. This is the 1st real relationship for both of us. He says he still loves me he just needs time to think and im giving him the time but I don't know if by the time hes ready what will happen or if he will even want me back. Is it possible to find me attractive again and want me back? If he does, would it be a good idea to actually take him back considering theres a risk of this happening again? Or is it possible that hes just not into me anymore and theres no chance of ever getting back with him?
2007-03-17 07:14:27 · 14 answers · asked by Ducky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to lower yourself by being with someone who dumped you? This guy is just stringing you along to avoid his own guilt. Move on and don't look back.
2007-03-17 07:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just not into you anymore--plain and simple. The longer you spend thinking about getting back with him or what if you got back with him or does he still love you, the more time you're wasting. If he wanted to be with you, he would. Remember, break-ups happen for a reason--yes people make mistakes, but chances are even if you get back together with him he's just going to re-realize why the relationship didn't work out in the first place. He broke up with you, you are a FREE woman, stop being held in this guy's emotional prison. This guy has broken all relationship-ties with you but still wants to control you by giving you false hope--now you know you deserve better than that! Take your time to grieve the relationship--the first ones are the hardest to get over. Go out with some friends, have a few sobs and a few cocktails then move on. It may take a while, but that's OK. But the best thing to do is to ignore him if he tries to call, e-mail, text message, IM you or anything else...this can most likely lead nowhere and it will only make it harder for you to move on. Take as much time as you need, do whatever you need to do to move past the relationship, then get back on that horse again! Good luck!
2007-03-17 07:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by justpeachee22 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say move on, this happens to people. Some people will end up losing feelings for the person they used to love so much over time. Its probably because something is just missing from you that he wants. And thats not your fault, its just that your not the right girl for him. Its possible he can find you attractive again, but just not right away, it takes time. You ever heard of stories where the exs go back to their old gb/bf after they have both moved on? Well, it may take him time to realize he has made a mistake to break up with you later on, thats only if he does. The beginning of the realationship is always the best, you two probably felt you guys were meant to be together and would be together forever and such. Dont believe it when your bf says that to you because you never know how the future will turn out to be. It usually never end up lasting later on. So, move on to new people. Its your first real relationship with him and i know it must have hurt you a lot, but you need to learn that part of life is to learn to move on. Some people are just not meant to be together for a long time.
2007-03-17 07:29:28 · answer #3 · answered by =P 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is probably a chance that you wil get back together but give him his time. If you were together for 2 years, he is gonna be in love with you for a long time, if not forever. To me, he seems like he made up an excuse to get out of the relationship. If its his first relationship, he would probably have been desiring some free time or other girls. It sounds crazy but sometimes guy don't want to be locked down forever. He may want to experience other things before he settles down in a serious relationship. Just give him some alone time and see how things work out from there
2007-03-17 07:20:27 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am in this situation right now as well. It sounds like he just does not know how to be in a long-term relationship. The excitement fades after a while and you have to work harder to keep it up. Remember he left you so go do your own thing. Don't grovel or beg. You are better than that!
2007-03-17 07:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by teena9 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, dear it sounds like you both are young so in my opinions if that's his true feelings about you then ship him to the curve because he just a puppy love that hasn't experience the world out there and you have not either go dating have fun but remember if he is the one you will know . You are not stupid you are beautifully in and out remember this Good Luck Honey 47 been there done that.
2007-03-17 07:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by missypinkboots 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what the things were you were doing that made him not attractive to you anymore. It is possible to be in love with someone and not like the things that they do but he should have talked to you and explained this instead of just breaking up. If he doesn`t tell you what you have done then it sounds to me that he wants to play the field and still keep you on the side. If this happens then play with his emotions by going out with other guys, if for no reason but to see how he reacts. GOOD LUCK & I hope it works out for you.
2007-03-17 07:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by mammafran77 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He could be uncomfortable and not sure if you are for him and him for you, he might be looking somewhere else for another relationship or he might be stepping back to take a short breather to see if he really wants to go further in the relationship with you! In any case I would not want too awful long, after all you too have a life to live and as they say "there are lots of fish in the sea" He could be scared and not ready to advance and trying to think things through, this will have to be discussed with him at some point in the near future, if you want the relationship to continue, just remember, he might not want to ever talk with you again!
2007-03-17 07:25:50 · answer #8 · answered by alindiapers 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Lots of times when guys say they want a break it means they want to break up, he just doesn't want to hurt you ... if he was in love with you he wouldn't want to leave ... he cares about you, but it's time to pig out on some ben and jerry's and then move on ... keep your chin up you'll find someone even better
2007-03-17 07:21:53 · answer #9 · answered by Like Nothing Else 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why but time has a way at making things better. If you have too transfer to a different school and meet new people. I hope it works out for you. ;)
2016-03-18 01:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋