2007-03-17 07:14:06 · 20 answers · asked by diamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You're really the only person that can make that decision, possibly with help from your fiance and/or someone who actually knows what your relationship with your father is like. If you aren't planning to tell any family, and don't want anyone to be there, then you could tell everyone when you get back. But if you're telling some family and not him, he's bound to find out about that eventually and it's won't do your relationship any good.
If you think that he might try to stop you or show up uninvited (and if you're an adult capable of making your own decisions), then it might be best to tell him after. But just make sure you think about it long and hard before you do that, and make sure that you won't have any regrets. That's not the kind of thing you can take back.
You have to make this decision based on your relationship with him though - no one else can tell you what's right for you.
2007-03-17 08:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a dad of a 21 and 19 year old. (Daughter is 19) It would crush me to have her elope without telling me. I do not care how she would want to get married, but as long as I am there or at least informed. I wouldn't miss it forthe world however. It's my baby. Tell him before.
2007-03-17 20:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by D Weed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can do it only before, because AFTER you can't tell him that you ARE getting married in Vegas! =))
2007-03-17 12:51:53 · answer #3 · answered by belverana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell your father before you go to Vegas. He will be very disappointed if you get married without telling him. He's your father, you should involve him in some way. Tell him, or you will regret it later down the road. Good luck and congrats!!!
2007-03-17 07:40:29 · answer #4 · answered by babycakes 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him after. You don't want to deal with the arguments (if there are any) beforehand. It will be much easier to justify the wedding if you can come back and say what a great time you had.
2007-03-17 11:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he even know that you are getting married?
Does he want to be there?
Would he be really upset if you don't tell him?
If he knows that you are getting married I would say tell him so he can be there if he wants to.
If not, enjoy your life and do what is best for you. Don't expect him to support your marriage if you don't even tell him about it!
2007-03-17 08:13:01 · answer #6 · answered by justwondering 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r eloping, u r supposed to leave a note and run
theirs no point if u r eloping to announce it
then its not eloping
its just getting married seeing as everyone knows
2007-03-18 10:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely tell him before. I know that my father eloped and didn't tell me until afterwards. I was extremely hurt and am still hurt to this day.
2007-03-17 13:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Meesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh, before you go!! Most defiantly! How would you like if when/if you have kids and they grow that they didn't tell you where they were getting married? Huh?
2007-03-17 08:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by kool aid man. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you will desire to describe it to her ASAP. She'll be greater disenchanted if after the honeymoon you tell her. Who cares what her organic and organic mom thinks. And would not the daughter be invited to the marriage?
2016-12-19 07:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋