i seem to have found a pattern with myself. when im happy and in love like right now . i find myself looking for a reason why the guy that im with, wouldnt want to be with me and put that in my head, and now i find im doing this again and seem to be doing things to drive him away. i have notice a patter in past relationships , why would i want to do this this guy loves me so much and i love him , so why do i do this?
2007-03-17 07:13:19 · 1 answers · asked by fairy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the most obvious answer to this question is fear. perhaps you are afraid of the vulnerability that comes with a close relationship. that could explain why when you reach a certain point you start to try and sabotage it. perhaps you are also afraid of being hurt, so rather than wait to be hurt if the relationship doesnt work out, you end it first and thus can feel better. regardless of what you are afraid of, a pattern like this can follow you for life and cause problems with your relationships. you might want to try and think about the relationships in your life to date to try and figure out if one of them is the root of this problem. like have you been hurt before, etc. if you can identify it, then that might help you be more aware of this pattern so that you can put in the work to try and counteract it.
2007-03-17 07:26:03 · answer #1 · answered by asg_is_chillin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋