we have been dating on and off, mostly on for 5 years. we have both been in college. he just graduated and has a really good job now. i have a semester and summer before i graduate. we just got back together after a pretty long break up. we have both dated a lot of other people and i think we know there is no one else for us. my dad is starting a business empire and we are both going to work with my dad so we will be set, but not for like another year or so. i know he wants the best of the best and wants to be able to afford all the things we want as far as a wedding goes and a house. how long is too long to wait for him to propose? we talk about marriage and kids a lot. is there anything i can do to speed up the process. he is about to be 25 and i am about to turn 23.
2007-03-17 07:12:59 · 23 answers · asked by seeks 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the only thing i can tell u is that another 5 yrs is too long. give it some more time, maybe about 2-3 yrs if that, stay patient and talk to him and let him know how u are feeling, just don't seem desperate to get married- just curious- u follow?? hope i was of help. good luck.
2007-03-17 07:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by POOCHY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a novel idea. Instead of actually bringing up the subject of marriage, which is dicey, try subliminal messages. Get the Carpenters song, "I Need to Be in Love".
Don't be too obvious. Just mix it in with other music. After a while, he subconsciously starts thinking about what a good thing he has with you. Trust me, as a guy, the worst thing is to be pressured into marriage. Let him pick the right time... this will just speed it up a little.
Here are the lyrics:
The hardest thing I've ever done is keep believing
There's someone in this crazy world for me.
The way that people come and go through temporary lives,
My chance could come and I might never know.
I used to say, "No promises, let's keep it simple",
But freedom only helps you say goodbye.
It took awhile for me to learn that nothing comes for free.
The price I've paid is high enough for me.
CHORUS
I know I need to be in love,
I know I've wasted too much time.
I know I ask perfection of a quite imperfect world,
And fool enough to think that's what I'll find.
So here I am with pockets full of good intentions,
But none of them will comfort me tonight.
I'm wide awake at 4 AM without a friend in sight.
Hanging on a hoop, but I'm alright.
2007-03-17 07:22:23 · answer #2 · answered by pachl@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT IS YOUR RUSH????? Wait until HE ASKS. Period... You may seem too desperate to him if you bring up the subject and that may be a total disappointment for HIM... You may even run him off.. Guys don't like NEEDY girls... If he doesn't ask, HE IS NOT READY... Then why do you want to speed it up? You two are way too young to start marrying... Wait a while and see how things go. If you broke up, there were reasons... How can you be sure those same reasons won't surface later, specially when you are already married and are building a family business...? I recommend waiting because it is not the same to be a couple that dates and a couple that works together... HUGE difference... Just be calm, wait and observe the person you are with, picture yourself working with that person and how you think it will affect your future relationship... It is better imagining what it may be like from the outside than trying to fix it from the inside... to detect any possible conflicts that may arise...
2007-03-17 07:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex boyfriend proposed after 6 months. (ex boyfriend for a reason, i assume). My dad proposed to my mom after a 300 and sixty 5 days and a one million/2. they're divorced. My dad proposed to my step mom after 3 years, yet they're no longer rather married yet (and in all possibility should not be). My pawpaw proposed to my mawmaw after a 300 and sixty 5 days and that they are 40 six years stable. all of it merely relies upon on the guy. If he's speaking approximately it, then you understand he ought to choose to so merely wait and spot. If it on no account is going everywhere for a protracted time, then in line with possibility you'll have a severe communication with him approximately it.
2016-12-18 16:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by miracle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be hesitating for his own reasons...he may not even be in touch with all his feelings. Working together and living together is a lot of togetherness for any couple. This situation sounds like it is heading for an "all or nothing" future. If you can work out these differences in plans, you may be able to move on to the next level of commitment. You can't speed it up or rush him. You both will loose if you are not both satisfied with the plans and the time frame.
2007-03-17 07:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
20 years
2007-03-17 07:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no perfect answer. If you just got back together after a long break up don't be in a rush. He may be nervous about things working out this time around. I do think you should have an honest discussion about it, without pressuring him.
2007-03-17 07:18:00 · answer #7 · answered by teena9 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd propose when I feel ready to get married and make sure that you know each other well. Most people get married at age 27 so 2 to 3 years would be max.
2007-03-17 07:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by s√(s-a)(s-b)(s-c) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't propose then he doesn't really want to get married and if that what your looking for then I"m sorry to say that you shouldn't force him, I think you should ask him if he want to get married of if he just want to be in a long term relationship. Now just don't get pregnant because then hes going to have to marry you. Not because he want to or because he might want to be with your forever but because the child is responsibility of you both other wise get another man............
2007-03-17 07:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by salem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you get engaged doesnt mean you have to run off the vegas the next day. Why not consider a long engagement? You take the time to get your degree and your boyfriend will earn enough $ so you can get your life together.
2007-03-17 07:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋