i go to see my boyfriend everyday, and now i am sick and tired of me always being angry and jealous and always constantly worrying even though it may be for no reason. i guess i developed this behaviour because of my insecurity issues. this is like 2 years of me being stressed out. i don't feel like myself anymore. he is sick of my behaviour as well. i'm thinking about having a 1 or 2 week break from him so that i can calm down. i've attempted to try and have a break a few times, but usually failed. the problem is, usually the next day or two, even though he is sick and tired of me, he would always call me and wants to see me. i miss him and want to run back to him. but soon enough i get up tight with him again and get stressed. i know i need a break and being too stressed is bad for me. what can i do to not run back to him for a while even though i'm bored and miss him, and have a break and relax?
2007-03-17 07:10:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A break is good, but you might consider counseling.
2007-03-17 07:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by di12381 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly the same! My boyfriend and I, last year, went through a very rouch patch of breaks and "seeing each other" and breaks - quite messy. Then something kinda clicked, and we've just spent a further 9 months in absolute bliss. I can still get a bit jealous - but I learn to stand back and think "If he wanted to be with other girls, he would be - but he's not, he's with me". I'm sure you've heard that before, but really believe it, it's true! :) The fact he calls you, even after he's "annoyed", shows he loves you a lot, and despite imperfections, obviously really wants to be with you! I'm not too sure what advice to give you, as my boyfriend and I were just quite lucky!
In terms of jealousy, I always got worried about him and other girls, then over the summer, whilst on a break, I met some other boys, and the tables "turned". I still was madly in love with my boyfriend, and didn't really want anything to do with the others, but knowing that they liked me, made me realise, I can be liked, if everything falls apart with my boyfriend, I am not doomed a life of lonliness forever!
Don't worry sweet heart, hang in there. I'm sure you're a lovable, kind-hearted girl that is very caring and just wants to be loved - we all do!
Just take a step back, put things into perspective, understand this isn't everything and there is more to life that your boyfriend. You friends, career, hobbies, family etc.
Also, dunno if this may help, but I'm on "The Pill" which helps with mood swings - a LOT. I've "chilled out" SO much since. I really recommend.
And I've also been to councelling to understand my self-esteem and insecurity issues.
I can now enjoy spending time with my boyfriend, feeling confident in myself and in the knowledge he loves me very much.
*hug*
2007-03-17 07:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by Luchia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly,if you can't spend 2 weeks apart from ur b/f then U need to be more concerned w/why U can't be happy on ur own.If ur so stressed & self-concious about urself anybody first.I have been single for about 2 yrs now & I have become very content for the most part being that way & except for a few little things I am happy with myself.People don't like being around somebody else that brings them down all the time.It just sounds like U don't have a great relationship going if he is stressing U out so much.Relationships should'nt be difficult. :)
2007-03-17 07:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont call it a break, just try and relax, trust him if you love him, you can never guarantee that anyone wont betray you, but it is the risk you take on loving someone. He loves you and wants to be with you, as is natural, hence why he calls, but then you need to have faith in him. If he is going to cheat then he will, and being angry and jealous will not make it any better or make it not happen. Just try and be happy.
2007-03-17 07:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need a mid-course correction. You don't want to be co-dependent. Meaning that you can't function if you are no together every minute of every day. Who is fueling your insecurity issues? Are they real or are they imagined?
Relationships should not be a source of so much stress.
You need to look at your whole life outside of your relationship. I assume you have a family, girl friends or even things you like to do alone. Focus in on those things and the time will fly by. Tell your b/f that you love him and don't want to smother him--that you want to love him when he wants you but not see him every minute of every day.
2007-03-17 08:51:45 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all life is to short to be stressed out all the time,and second if this relationship is already downhill hen uits going to get worse and worse dont stress out over somebody who isnt going to be your future or a good future find someone who you totally happy with.
2007-03-17 07:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
involve ur self in other thing's keep ur self busy u relly need to get a break and sort out ur prirorities thts really imp
2007-03-17 07:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by manna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new Bf.Obviously he does not know what he wants!
2007-03-17 07:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unplug the telephone and have some quiet time with your dildo.
2007-03-17 07:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you don't love yourself..........get yourself to where you do....be single find yourself...change the bad...maybe therapy would help...get happy..then find a mate..this one won't work.......
2007-03-17 07:14:44 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋