Mid-aged men and young girls?

Question

Why do men of about 40 like 20yr old girls this much? Is it smth physical or mental?

Answer 1

It's more of a statement of the man's immaturity and the fact that he has a warped sense of wanting a "little girl" he can use to keep from being arrested for molesting a child.

But sometimes it actually is love, and who knows why it happens. My wife is 9 yrs my senior because i have always liked mature women instead of ending up with someone who likes to talk about shopping or soap operas.

Answer 2

C'mon Diana, it has to do with procreation. Men are programmed mentally & physically to procreate, so should it be a mystery that included in that programming is the attraction to the most capable and fertile females ???

While you may be sensitized to your stated phenominun of "about 40 like 20yr old girls", I assure you that a capable and fertile 40 year old gets just as much attention.

Answer 3

Yikes. I didn't know guys were going that young.

When men hit 40, they start going through what's called a mid-life crisis, where they realize they're getting older and maybe they can't do all the things they could do when they were 20.

Some guys don't handle that well, so they're probably trying to hit on 20-year-old girls to feel like they're not too old after all.

Answer 4

I think it's both, middle age guys like younger girls because of their beautiful "untainted" looks. They believe that they have conquested a victory by being able to have a sexual relationship with a girl that is still on her prime time or at the peak of her beauty. Yeah, older guys do take a lot of prides in scoring younger girls. They use their money, cars, wealth to lure attractive young girls between the age of 18-25.

Answer 5

I have a 42 year old divorced brother in law that has "all of a sudden" started only looking at girls in their 20's. He has been divorced for about 6 years. He dated a 28 year old, that fell through...then he took out a 22 year old...that only lated one date....now he is dating a hairdresser in her 20's....who knows how long that will last. He is infatuated.

He is also in a mid-life crisis I believe. He has started to worry that he is getting old and he won't find anyone to grow old with. He is trying to find youth. BUT the sad truth for him is...the clock is still ticking. Dating young women will only break his heart 9 times out of 10. These young women are charmed that he finds them attractive but then they realize an "old man" is not what they want. I'm not calling 42, old by no means....I'm 36 myself! But you get what I'm saying.

It is a mental thing. They are trying to find youth!!!! It doesn't work!

Answer 6

As a forty year old man I believe that sexual desires should be just htat...desires.To act or rather prey on the younger generation for your own gratification is plain wrong.physical needs can be taken care of in different ways and mental need to be a predator ,well,thats bullshit in my book ...sleezy excuse.Men dont make excuses they handle them with pride in ones self.An honest man,one whom acts like a man at all times can look but he should always,without exception,maintain a distance from the young if only for sex.
A man who does persue the 20 something is not a man and in my book deserves to betreated the the cowardly pig he is.....bacon.
I hope you find peace for deep down inside you ,somewhere,is a voice that will lead you to the right door.

Answer 7

Girls feel more secure and faithful from the mid aged men than those young and hungry man, agree ?

Answer 8

This is an article I found on the net. Enjoy!
Older men date younger women for many reasons. But one thing's for certain: Most of these relationships won't last. Here are 10 reasons why.

1. Fantasy love fades, usually within a year. At first, the geezer is in love with her looks and youthful spirit. Eventually, he realizes all they have in common is a roof over their heads, and he'll be off to look for a relationship with substance.

2. Geezers may feel younger, but dating younger women won't make them younger. No matter how hard geezers try to make the wrinkles disappear, the darn things keep showing up in the mirror.

3. Older men and younger women use each other, similar to a business arrangement. He's got money, assets, power or security; she's got youth and beauty. If the money runs out, or someone richer comes along, she'll break the lease, leaving him with an empty wallet and his arms around a tree.

4. OK, maybe she's not using him. Perhaps she loves him because he's more patient, laid back, mature, gentle and understanding than men her age. Still, she's likely considered his bucks at some point. You don't see younger women with destitute older men.

5. Different energy levels. At 10 p.m., he's wearing pajamas and falling asleep with a book in his hands and glasses on his nose. She's got on her dancing duds and is heading for the clubs. If he doesn't keep up, she might seek someone younger who is able to meet her needs.

6. Different maturity levels. He's got maturity and knowledge that come only from living through years and experience. Bob Russell, a retiree in Phoenix, Ariz., said, "I took a younger woman to a movie. When I mentioned that the actor looked like Humphrey Bogart, she looked at me sweetly and said, 'Who is Humphrey Bogart?' After that, I dated women my own age."

7. Common goals and interests. He wants a golf cart to drive around the retirement community. She wants a Corvette with chrome wheels, and she's opening a flower shop with her girlfriend that requires working 60 hours a week.

8. Lifestyles differ. Take children, for example. "I have two men friends in their late 50s who not only married younger women, but have conceived new babies. Imagine her, years from now, buying 'Depends' for him, and 'Pampers' for the babies. Not to mention the antidepressants for herself attempting to manage the two," said Ivory Dorsey, 54, of Mableton, Ga.

9. Stand by your man? Younger women may not stand by their older guys through the inevitable hard times that accompany growing old. And while pursuing younger women, guys miss out on meeting someone older who would have been there for them.

10. Health issues. Two women reported they had enjoyed wonderful relationships with their husbands who were 15 years older. But both women were widowed in their 50s. Either party can get sick, but the chances of a younger woman becoming a widow are considerably greater than an older man becoming a widower.

There are exceptions, of course, and couples with an age gap can have wonderful relationships. It's how closely they think together that matters. Connie Presley-Athchley, of Trabuco Canyon, Calif., is married to a man 20 years younger. "We have a wonderful relationship and a passion for each other," she said.

Amie McCulloch, of Ennis, Texas, said, "Not all younger women are the same. I'm 25 and dating a 40-year-old man. I'm involved with him for love, not his money or what he can provide for me."

There will always be older men who want to date younger women. Most will discover that those relationships don't last. And a few will come to their senses and seek women closer to their own age who share common goals, interests and energy levels. But they'll have to learn for themselves.

Answer 9

The hope and illusion of seeing and feeling. A nice firm sexy body. Versus something that has sagged, and the same old show all the time. Bored and lose of interest for your spouse.

Answer 10

I think its both. For older men, its the younger woman, someone who they think might not be experienced, sort of a mentor, mentee thing. For younger women, there's something of an allure of an older man, whose hopefully mature than her male peers and has a comfortable life.