I hv been avoiding my frnd who used to avoid me and always used to say she was busy, to whom I used to care alot but all of a sudden I stopped caring her, texting her and talking to her on d phone. And I make excuse like i was busy or something like that.
But i feel bad bcoz even though when she was busy she used to get in touch with me even if it was for 5mins but i started feeling like I was a burden on her and thought I would distant myself from her and I exactly did that.
Well i have been avoiding her since 2 weeks but there is no change in her attitude she talks to me only when she is free or when she is sad and needs some1 to hear her out. this makes me feel like she use me i.e 1 of d reason for avoiding her calls also. Am I right? do i continue ignoring her? Do u think she will come up to me and ask that whats wrong with me? Well she has sensed that something is wrong with me but she doesnt know that I have been hurt by her.
what shall i do? plz help
2007-03-17 06:57:53 · 4 answers · asked by lets_smile07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me it's you who is doing the hurting. Even though you keep on avoiding her & giving her the cold shoulders, she still continues to talk to you, getting in touch even if she got only 5 minutes... this you take as using you but it's more likely that she thinks of you as a friend she can confide to. Forget who has done what & to whom & all that childish things, be a friend to her & you will find her a friend too for you.
2007-03-17 07:14:53 · answer #1 · answered by MoiMoii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be good to let her know how you're feeling. At the same time, well, don't expect her to apologize for how she has been treating you. She probably won't see that she's done anything wrong to you. I suggest taking some time for yourself. Try meditation. But no, I don't think you should continue doing this. I don't see that you are right or wrong. Your friend probably doesn't care or know there is anythng up between the two of you. It might be good to try to understand that people, even close friends, can not read your mind. Just because you feel hurt, doesn't mean that someone did anything wrong and meant to hurt you. You're okay. It might be good to drop your story-line (your list of all the hurts your friend did to you), just feel what your feeling, and don't try to hold on to it. Let it pass and then start again with your friend. She's probably in her own world, too.
2007-03-17 14:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by Steph717 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the word is co-dependant. You need her but she really doesn't need you.
Make the break clean and don't look back. She is using you in one way or another, either consciously or unconsciously.
Every time you speak or see her it will start all over again the feelings of her that she doesn't share with you.
2007-03-17 14:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by rann_georgia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..thats tough. Why not ask her to lunch and sit down and have a nice chat. Decide if its a relastionship you want to keep. If so, tell her how you feel. If not, ignore her.
Thats all I can say. Good luck.
2007-03-17 14:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by lightriderangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋