Me and my boyfriend are on a break right now.
He wanted a break too see if he should be in this relationship
Sometimes he feels like I might be holding him back from something, not sure what but something.
We havent talked in a week and Im scared that he wont want to be with my anymore.
Im not overbearing and anytime he talks about God I always listen because I love God with all my heart.
I thnk he might not think I am as Chrisitan as he is which makes me upset. Is there anything I can say to make him realize that I wont hold him back?
Is his reason good for taking a break, even if I dont turn him away from God?
just confused, any advice (besides smart alick advice) will help, thanks alot!
2007-03-17 06:56:24 · 10 answers · asked by bArBiE 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Uhh I hate when people answer and just leave something thats not even relevant to what I asked. Gosh seriously are you that immature
And to everyone else that actually left good advice, thanks. I dont think I made myself very clear though.
We know that you dont just date, to date. If we stay together we intend to get married, he just wanted me to get wise counsel which was what I was trying to do
2007-03-17 07:25:02 · update #1
btw the reason I said only CHRISTIAN GUYS is because not evryone especially just immature guys leave stupid come backs. Plus the person that I am taking a break from happens to be a christian guy, and I was hoping to get some advice from other CHRISTIAN GUYS
but christian girls are good too, but as you can see there is clearly a difference beteween girls and guys..
2007-03-17 07:27:42 · update #2
Hey
I know you said guys only...however I was in the same situation. I had a guy that wanted a 'break' because he felt like God was telling him not to be in a relationship. This hurt me, as far as I was concerned I never held him back. We never got back together but now I am glad we didnt. He was right, we both needed to grow our own individual relationship with God, sometimes being with somone prevents this from happening. You have done nothing wrong and he probably does care for you a lot. The fact the your thinking of him and never being with him again is exactly how I felt-but sometimes these things happen for a reason. Sometimes relationships get stuck into a rut-by the sounds of it he needs his space to sort out his own feelings about everything not just you. Believe me if he doesn;t want you back- you will look back and realise it was probably for the best. It does get easier x
2007-03-17 07:18:49 · answer #1 · answered by Milkyway 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why only guys? I am a christian women, and as such, and a married one at that, I think I could know a thing or two about this!
Do you think you are as much of a christian as him? Do you act like a christian while you are around him only, and another way otherwise. There must be a reason for thinking that.
The teens and young adults who are unmarried at my church are taught to make sure they are not unequally yolked. You need to be with someone who is of like faith. If he feels he wants to do more for God, or wants his wife to have a certain zeal, and doesnt feel you have that, then he definatly has grounds for taking a break...
But I dont really belieeve in taking breaks, honestly. I believe that you shouldnt date, just to date. You date to get married. You are with someone to decide if you want to marry them, not to have fun. If he believes you need a break, chances are, you probably shouldnt be together.
This is probably the best advice I can give. But, maybe your right, and he is wrong. In that case, you should be happy to move on, knowing God has someone in store for you who is really going to love you. I hope it all works out for the best!
2007-03-17 14:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by Bl3ss3dw1thL1f3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st?: Probably not. ?'s of the head have to make it to our heart, and we need to find God's peace about the situation. I can't believe you would conscientiously hold him back. He may see his level of commitment as greater than yours. That you are here seeking sincere help speaks volumes. Some things are most likely real and some imagined. Let God sort things out for the both of you. If you don't have a minister you can counsel with you should find one. Your pastor?
2?: A break is probably a good idea. I remember when dating my wife I asked for my ring back. I was wrong to do it but things were just moving too fast for me at the time. I just needed to hear from God for myself. Nothing wrong with waiting and making the right decision.
God bless and may He shine a light on your paths.
2007-03-17 14:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by B00G1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he has other issues as well, and either doesn't realize them, or perhaps he is trying to make a break with you permanently, hoping that this temporary one will ease the pain.
As another answerer said, if you seek God's kingdom first, He will provide you with "all these things as well." (Matthew 6:33)
Here's who you should be looking to during this time:
"For your Maker is your husband; the Lord of hosts is his name; and your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; who is the God of the whole earth. 'For the Lord called you as a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, and as a wife in her youth, who was then refused,' says your God. 'For a short while I had forsaken you; but with great mercy I will bring you back.'" (Isaiah 54:5-7)
May the Lord who loves you better than any man, comfort you and guide you during what must be a difficult time. Amen.
2007-03-17 14:12:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your probably better off without him. That holding me back speech is sometimes a code for he thinks he can do better than you. Or that he thinks it may be getting too serious and he wants to just check out other girls... Or he just does not like a few things about you. I seriously doupt that it has to do anything with religion.
You seem like a great gal, and if he does not see that your probably better off.
2007-03-17 14:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by gonz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all things will be added unto you.
When you show that JESUS is the ultimate groom in your life than you won't worry about finding that perfect mate.
Trust JESUS let his will guide you.
2007-03-17 14:03:25 · answer #6 · answered by andy r 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dump the bum and move on. if he was a true christian man he would be working for the relationship not against it
2007-03-17 14:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by michael_6446 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
HeLlO, I'm NoT a ChRiStIaN BuT TyPiNg LiKe ThIs Is ReAlLy DuMb
2007-03-17 14:00:43 · answer #8 · answered by funaholic 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
why only the guys, you looking for a new date?
2007-03-17 14:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by XX 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF HE wAnTss To lEaVe LEt hIm LEAve.
2007-03-17 14:07:00 · answer #10 · answered by Kenny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋