my boyfriend of one and a half years broke up last week. he said he didn't think we should contact one another for a while. well the very next night he text me and has continued to do this every night. it is empty talk but talk none the less. he said he just wants to check on me. i want to get back together with him. he was recently diagnosed with mild depression and is currently on medication. he tells me everything will be ok and i just need to be patient. he is a wonderful man and we get along great. he has recently had intimacy problems and is not as affectionate. he doesn't want to do anything fun anymore.... we both agreed he is not in the right state of mind to be in a relationship right now. do you think he wants me back? should i wait this thing out or try and fine someone else? i have never dealt with depression before. please give me some advice on this. thanks so much!
2007-03-17 06:43:29 · 13 answers · asked by roots4fins 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really think he still cares for you,you just don't be with someone for a year and a half and lose feelings for them that quick.. maybe he felt he wasn't in the right state of mind for a relationship... but, yet it seems like he is still reaching out to you for care and affection... i wouldn't just text him i would call when a person is depressed they tend to try to stay isolated and in deep pain.. but, if i were you i would talk to him break down those walls of isolation and show him lots of love cause it could even save his life.. when a person is depressed they tend to have suicidal thoughts but your love could lift him out of this state and even give him a new found perspective on life.. so, don't give up on him. obviously there is still care in both of you for each other and if it wasn't any care there wouldn't be any type of communication at all.. my advice to you would be to help him through this time and you will be greatly appreciated and besides deep down in your heart you really don't want to move on so quickly anyway.. so, keep trying you never know what will come of this.. and, help him as much as you can as if it were you going through it too...
2007-03-17 06:57:17 · answer #1 · answered by nikkiblue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please be patient, depression isn't easy and the one thing you want to have are people who are supportive and understanding. I don't think you should rush into another relationship with someone else unless you are one hundred percent over your ex and by everything I have read, I don't think you are ready to move on. All your ex wants is for you to understand what he is going through and to love him through it. Unless you have experienced depression, it's really had to understand what someone who has it is going through. I suffer with depression myself and I am on medication and it's a daily struggle but it helps when you have got that special someone whom you can depend on. Depression can be a temporary condition and if this person is worth it, you should be there for him and help him to work through whatever it is that he is going through. The true measure of a person, isn't to run at the first sign of trouble but to love unconditionally. Let him know that you are willing to love him through it and you are there for him whenever he needs you. Sex isn't the be all and end all, and he may not want to engage in intimacy or do anything fun for now, but if you really value him and all that you two shared, then you will give him the time he needs to work through his problems and not run into the arms of someone else that you may regret being with. The grass always looks greener on the other side until you get there, so proceed with caution. Good luck
2007-03-17 07:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was his decision to break up with you and he texts you every night.. obviously he's not over you. I would talk to him on the phone or go on a date with him, and ask him straight on if he still likes you. If you didn't like him.. you wouldn't have a problem with this, i say give him another chance.. maybe you're all he needs to get out of depression.
2007-03-17 06:50:36 · answer #3 · answered by Megan28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that although you sympathize with his disease, you deserve to know where you stand in the relationship. If you're both willing, you can work on it together. If he needs support be there for him, but don't let him take advantage of you. You need to know if it's time for you to move on. Tell him he either has all of you, or none of you. He can't have it both ways. Let him know that you would be willing to give it a shot, but don't seem too eager.
2007-03-17 06:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Nidda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can say is that you will be there when if and when he needs you. Nothing wrong with telling him that you still love him. Prayer works too, pray for him. Take him to the doctor to try other medication, try to be supportive for now.
2007-03-17 06:48:09 · answer #5 · answered by Emily L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he totally wants you back, but wont tell you because he feels ashamed that you and him broke up.go tell him you still want to be together and can't stand being alone if he says he wants you back too then every thing worked out but if he has to much pride and say he doesn't want you back then find someone else you don't want a man that has to much pride
2007-03-17 06:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I tell you exactly what to do, are you going to do it? Of course not. Only you will be able to decide if your relationship with him is worth a little bit of patience on your part. Give him a sec to figure this out.
2007-03-17 06:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by jjayferg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might want u back or u might be the one that he trusts the most so he just wants u to talk to him and be there for him
2007-03-17 06:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's acting desperate.... guys hate being called desperate.
2007-03-17 06:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by all unknowing 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs your love. go give him a hug. now.
2007-03-17 06:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by dr.macgruder 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋