Ok, so I'm a high school senior and there's this guy in my grade who is pretty much perfect: he's got a gorgeous face and an amazing body, he's athletic (tennis) and a really good musician (drums), and he has better morals than anybody I know. I never really knew him, but I (and pretty much every other girl) always thought of him as this dream guy who I would never be with. We started talking about a month ago, and we've hung out alone a few times.
He has a great personality- he's funny, and a complete gentleman...but I don't seem to like him "like that." He's not like other guys I've liked, who I couldn't get out of my mind and who gave me butterflies in my stomach whenever I saw them. I don't understand why, he's SO much better than any other guy I've ever been with.
What's wrong with me? Is there any way I can make myself like him as more than a friend? (please, no sarcastic or mean-spirited answers)
2007-03-17 06:35:52 · 7 answers · asked by BellaBaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is possible that he is the perfect guy, just not the perfect guy for you
2007-03-17 07:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first relax. Just enjoy each others company and as you get to know him better, your feelings may very well deepen. So what if you don't have those little butterflies....that is immature attraction based on not much more than superficial things like looks...physical chemistry. Emotional chemistry is very important and not something to overlook or ignore.
Good luck and hang in there. A wonderful relationship could develop!!!
2007-03-17 06:45:17 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its called a gut feeling. Always trust your gut. Well maybe not always. Something inside you is telling you not to fall for him. Nobody is that perfect. You still have college, and in college you'll meet all sorts of guys. Don't get hung up on this one. If there are other girls who say "he's there dream", he may start being full of him self. Trust your gut. You've got lots of time. Trust me.
2007-03-17 06:47:10 · answer #3 · answered by cy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well actually many people go through this they just dont act on it. I think that just because u believe you are attracted to her that u feel ashamed which you shouldnt. Many people feel this way but u have to learn how to control this feeling. I think that being a good friend has many obstacles in the way and this happens to be one of them...what you should do is stay mellow and cool and find yourself a woman who you can relate to and who can make you forget all about your friends wife
2016-03-29 02:46:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, thats life. You can't control who you are attracted to, and unfortunately most girls are attracted to a88holes. Every girl says she wants to meet a nice guy, but when they come along, they throw them to the curb. WHY? Because nothing is simple.
2007-03-17 06:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just doesn't like his personality, may be his personality is good, and a gentleman and everything but may be you just attracted to the "bad boy" personality type, or something else....
2007-03-17 06:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, he doesn't have that IT factor that you like in a guy.
2007-03-17 06:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by hygrade4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋