I'm moving out. My daughter will be with him one week and me the next. I've tried to explain it to her, but she doesn't understand. When she is with me, she keeps pulling me towards the door, wanting to go home. I try to explain to her that she has two homes now, but she ignores me, and throws a tantrum. Arg!!!
My Ex (JERK) is trying to guilt trip me into staying. I CAN'T STAND HIM, when he's around I turn into super bi*ch!!! He makes me feel like I'm failing her, because I don't want to be with HIM anymore. He's making this 10x more difficult than it needs to be. I try not to have an opinion when he's around, because he see's it as an oppurtunity to fight with me!!! He pushes me around and I push back. He expects me to kiss his ***. I won't kiss his *** anymore EVER!!! I feel like I can't do anything right!!! Please serious answers only!
I've been here for 12 years, I've never been happy!! He manipulates me to the point of a nervous breakdown..
2007-03-17 06:30:17 · 3 answers · asked by . 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Random,
I'm very sorry to hear about your problem.
I'm more sorry for your daughter. It seems your ex is more than happy to 'play' her against you, to further his own selfish agenda. I'm glad that you're not playing this game...he doesn't know it yet, but he's just setting himself up to be ignored (and possibly hated) by his daughter.
I think you're doing the best thing possible to preserve your sanity by moving. If anything, that gives you the opportunity to give you and your daughter a calm, stress free environment to be together.
It's been often said that the best revenge is to live a happy life. To that end, i would record his rants that he leaves on your answering machine, and do so while in his presence. While you don't have to take any abuse from him, let your daughter see that it's HIM that's behaving badly...while YOU take the high road. Perhaps when it's time for the judge to decide who gets custody of your daughter, s/he would be able to see that you're not only the better person, but the better parent.
All the best.
2007-03-17 17:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very unhappy. Is there noboby you can talk to ?
Nobody has the right to be violent towards you, so you may well be safer being elsewhere.
Good luck.
2007-03-17 23:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Scotty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, what is the deal?
why dont you send me your pic and let us talk about it?
that is if your interested.
2007-03-17 15:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by ???? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋