curfew for a 12 year old girl?

Question

hi, i was wondering what a reasonable curfew would be for a 12 year old girl during:

weekends-
weekdays(well maybe you wouldn't be going out on a weekday)
holidays-
summer-

thank you in advance and happy saint patty's day!

well i would be coming from either a friend's house or the movies and well usually during weekends, i have to come home at like 6:30 to 7 while my friends continue to stay out even after dark. i've never gotten lost and i'd say i'm very responsible...

well about the whole family issue, there's not much i can do at home, look at my questions, my parents abuse me at home and i try to leave all of that behind because, i dont want be like them when i grow up, i used to act like them when i was little but my school gave me a psychologist for a year and now, i know that i dont want to be them, and i feel like the more i spend around them the more someday the way i feel about my future will change

Answer 1

When I was 12, my dad never gave me a steady curfew-it was always on a case by case basis. However, I think on weekdays a curfew of 8 pm should be the norm, but if she asks to stay out a little later, 9 pm is probably okay. (I mean, obviously if she has already done her homework and stuff.)

On weekends, I think 10 pm is reasonable.

By the way, in response to everyone who thinks a 12 year old always needs supervision, I think it's totally fine for a responsible 12 year old to, say, go to the mall or the movies with her friends unsupervised as long as a parent is dropping them off and picking them up.

Answer 2

omg, your daughter is the luckiest person ever to have a curfew.

I'm twelve, and I can't even walk to my school (which is 5 minutes away) by myself. I have to walk with my parents!

How embarassing is that? I understand my parents love me, and don't want me to die or stuff, but I wish there was a day I could walk in the mall by myself, or in the park by myself.

Oh and by answering your question,

I think that her curfew should be 6-7. I mean, it's very dangerous for her to be out so late. Weekends should be 6-7. Also, weekdays, should be 5-6. And Holidays summer would be around 7-8.

Answer 3

I am a mother first off. It all really depends on how responsible and honest she is. If she is out with friends at the mall or something i would say 9 to meet me for pick up. But just to be out running around with older friends is very questionable. You shouldn't be out during weekdays while school is in session. During summer when the days are longer it is OK to be out and about. BUT this is a dangerous world we live in now with all the kidnappings and other stuff that happens to young girls. You should really be supervised if not by one of your parents then by your friends parents. If you are allowed to be out alone for long periods of time. I would suggest that you learn self defense course and carry pepper spray ( USE ONLY WHEN NECESSARY, its not something to be taken lightly). Always be with a group of people that you and your parents know and trust. NEVER go with strangers even as a group. Do you have a cell phone for emergencies ? If not might be wise to discuss with your parents. It is really hard to just straight up and answer your question with so many other factors that play into this. 8-9 on weekends unless @ the movies and pick up right after movie or a dance. NO LATER THAN 11. The rest of the time you should be in before dark. If you want to stay out later than that then you need to sit down and discuss with your parents what your plans are for the night, where you will be and who will be with you. YOU HAVE TO BE HONEST for your SAFETY.

Answer 4

I think that what you need to consider is that perhaps it's not you that your parent's are concerned about- they're concerned about everyone else that is weird in this world.. They love you and couldn't imagine losing you. They might be strict- mine sure were, but they did it because they didn't want anything bad to happen to me. If you can't stay out, try having your friends over to your house. My stepdaughter can only be out with friends if there is a parent there- and she's 12. If she does go somewhere alone with friends, she has to be back before dark. If she is in a group, the parent has to be around. That's just the way it is. She is VERY responsible. The rest of the world isn't.

Try to understand that. Appreciate your parents for loving you so much!

Answer 5

As a teacher and a mom of 2 girls, there should be no reason for you to be out and about unless it is for something specific, like going to a movie or a friend's house.
I hate to break it to you, IMHO 12 is still too young to be unsupervised.
After having had the pleasure of teaching hundreds of middle-schoolers over the last 11 years, kids will be kids and still need guidance at that age. I wouldn't even be talking about curfews until 16 or 17.
Grown-ups do this because we want you safe and happy.

Oh yes, thank you and a happy St. Pat's day to you as well... I've got to get my corned beef and cabbage in the crockpot!

Take care,
Mon :-)

Answer 6

She should be home before dark no matter what day of the week it is unless she is supervised by a responsible adult. It's a very dangerous world out there and preditors are getting smarter and more tricky all the time. With all the people out there preying on children I would suggest that she stay with a group of friends whenever possible.

Answer 7

When I was 12 I wasn't allowed to go out unsupervised. But when I did go to the skating rink or some where with my friends, My mom picked me up at 9:00. And I still had to call home at 9:00 even when I was spending the night with my friends. But I never felt like it was to early. I was just happy to be allowed to go.

Answer 8

Yes, well, 6:30 or 7 p.m. sounds very reasonable to me. You need time to do your homework and be with family on weeknights. On weekends you need to also spend time with your family before going to bed. Same for summer and holidays. You are growing up, but your family should be your primary source for fun and entertainment at this age.

Answer 9

Children who dont drive dont need curfews, since they shouldnt be unsupervised and need to get themselves home at a reasonable time.

Especially a 12 year old. 12 is too young to just be roaming the streets or going from one friends to the next, certainly too young to do so without informing a parent or responsible adult every step of the way. Someone that can tell them its late and to come home.

There are many reasons, but perverts and babies make the top of my list.

Answer 10

we have a 12 year old boy and he has to be indoors when it starts getting dark. this would be weekdays,weekends, holidays or summer. the creepies come out in the dark.