couple of very interesting questions posted here, but i notice a lot of commenst say its ok for mothers and daughters but not mothers and sons.... to me boys are as innocent as girls, and my two kids see me naked, i dont parade round but just like the others they come in when i shower or am on the loo, and they always run round naked, my eldest is sometimes more shy these days and bans his brother from the bathroom but the next day he wants to bath with him. I dont want them growing up with hangups about bodies, as they are natural. having said that my sons are 8 and 10, and im suprised they are still so open and unabashed, but as this has always been normal in our house, i just leave them to decide.so why is this unwritten rule different for boys?
2007-03-17 06:21:52 · 24 answers · asked by slsvenus 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ha ha ronin your answer made me llaugh as it would get very wet in the shower!!! if im walking about the house or they come in my room i put on a dressing gown.
2007-03-17 06:33:23 · update #1
as it si - honey the only person on here with a devient obsession about sex issues and minor children is quite clearly yourself, as is apparant by your bizzarre questions and sometimes your answers.
2007-03-17 23:44:30 · update #2
Iv got three girls an one 12year old boy an a baby boy my 12year old lad does not care , he flash's his butt at my daughters all the time an runs about the house because they have always robbed all the towels from the bathroom , so he has just got use to it an my daughters don't care if he runs in an out of there rooms it just normal house hold my oldest girl is 18 an she always say are you got a six pack they just all joke , an id like to think when my other son grows up he want be embarrassed ever .
2007-03-17 07:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Personally, i dont see the problem. I have two grown up kids, boy and girl. Throughout their growing up and as adults i've never hid from them and they from me. Only now as my son is a teenager, he hides from me which is fine, his choice, but i've always walked about the house naked when its just us as a family. And none of us see anything wrong with it. Unfortunately, people do put an emphasise on the fact thats its wrong or naughty or whatever, but its obviously what the individual puts on the naked thing and throws it all out of proportion. If you portray to a minor that there is something wrong with it you instill the hangups and cause problems. Its a person thing in the long run, just be aware of what you're putting in the minds of these little people.
2007-03-17 20:09:36 · answer #2 · answered by chiccigyal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i have two sons. the eldest is seven, he never sees me any more, and i insist on him closing the door of the bathroom till he's in the bath (lots of bubbles.) but i have a 20 month old too, and he sits in his baby chair in the bath whilst i shower. the eldest was just over 3 when i stopped showering in front of him, but 7 when he got his own privacy. they need to know their bodys aren't naughty or dirty things, but they are PRIVATE and other people don't have the right to look at or touch them.
the eldest never sees his step dad naked,(my husband) but the youngest bathes with him sometimes (he's his real dad.). that wll stop when he reaches 3 too. and he will also be taught about personal space and privacy.
2007-03-18 14:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys myself (5yr and 2yr). I totally agree with you. They say that you should not let them see you naked after 2 or 3 but my oldest (5) does the same as your son. I feel that you are the only one that knows you and your family best don't let anyone tell you how to raise your family. You are doing a great job I am sure. (Why do there have to be jerks like Suck Ma.... on here.) Sorry.
2007-03-17 13:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by mother of 3 angels 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My girls see me naked and they don't see daddy in less than shorts. (One time they saw him in his underwear and 4 year old pointed out that he had a big piece of poop in the front of his underwear. LOL!)
As far as little boys seeing mommy, I think that's fine up to a point. I nursed my girls and I'm sure that for little boys (babies and toddlers), boobs might stir up very maternal feelings.
I think it's okay to see a parent nude every once in a while but I wouldn't run around the house like that. Kids need their boundaries and understand that not everyone is comfortable with nudity and that it is definitely not acceptable in public... Unless you are in a nudist colony or at a nude beach! Yowza!
My kids are pretty comfortable with their naked selves but I have to remind them not to change in front of open windows and such. I think what you are asking is really an issue of modesty.
Just my two cents,
Mon :-)
2007-03-17 14:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by santan_cat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I answered last question too and I agree with you. I have 2 girls who are 8 and 5 and my son is almost 3 - he spends so much time running around naked that I hadn't even considered treating him any differently. My Mum never hid herself from us but my Dad did as we got older and more embarrassed by his 'bits' but that was at mine and my sisters request.
I have one friend who was taken aback by my son and I explained that its normal. Since he potty trained in August he refuses to wear clothes on his bottom half in the house and they struggle at playgroup to keep him dressed sometimes too.
2007-03-17 13:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by StephE 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it's fine to be okay with the human body. If your sons know what the female form looks like, they won't be so curious when they get older and feel the need to stalk the girls locker room.
2007-03-17 16:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Amy B 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think if your whole family is OK with being nude, then it's no big deal. Nudity is natural. If the boys get uncomfortable, they can start wearing clothes. If you notice that their attention to you is a little too intense, maybe you should throw on a nightgown.
2007-03-17 13:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm the person that posted the 2nd question about nudity, i have 2 girls but if they were boys i would still be the same, it is not about sex it is about family.
2007-03-17 14:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by K W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing at all wrong with immediate family members of either sex seeing each other sans clothes.
2007-03-17 17:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Denny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋