its been 4 months and i've tried to date this guy and....i just can't....i might be afraid to.....i want someone like my ex and....theres no one like him...~it sux~..and i feel so0o lonely...please help!
2007-03-17 06:20:52 · 5 answers · asked by loveme4me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know how old you are, but why you don't you try enjoying life on your own for a chance. Many people tend to consecutively date their whole lives, and in the end never had a chance to live their own lives. Hang out with family and friends more. Join clubs, groups, activities at your school/work/church/community so that you can still meet even more people with various interest.
It's hard to move on after 3.5 years, but the best way to is to keep yourself busy on something productive, new and fun.
2007-03-17 06:27:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first mistake is that you are trying to compare other men with your ex..and that is not fair.If you continue to do that you will end up very lonely and probably alone.You should never live in the past it is not healthy.You and your EX are done now you need to move on and stop comparing obviously your ex wasn't that great or you would still be together..Also you cannot move on into a new relationship until you have completely put your old one in the past..Good Luck..
2007-03-17 13:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure how old you are, but it doesnt really matter b/c if you date someone for a long period of time and lose that person its going to hurt nomatter how old or young you are...i'm only 18 and i just got out of a 2 year relationship about 2 months ago..we havn't talked since the breakup until yesterday, and i still love him to death..its ironic, b/c after the breakup he treated me with norespect, going around with other girls, telling his guy friends not to talk to me, just nonsense like that...he also has ocd, adhd, and was put on antidepressants just weeks before our breakup (which makes people to believe caused the breakup b/c he became a completely different person since he was on the meds and just cannot handle a girlfriend with his new, wild life)...i've tried to date people, but its IMPOSSIBLE to not compare to someone that you are still in love with and have feelings for..nobody is perfect, including yourself, me your ex my ex, ect...however, if you are in love with someone you tend to not even notice the bad in them, you see nothing but their good qualities..so when u do meet a new, nice guy, you'll find yourself comparing him to someone you feel is "perfect"..and you point out the flaws of the new guy..its natural it happens to everyone.. me personally, im the type of girl that loves relationships especially at my age because i do not like the whole "catty highschool thing" however, i'm about to go to college, and start a whole new part of my life.. my suggestion to you is to do the same thing, any strong person can get over a guy and move on with the help of their friends and meeting new guys, but it takes a special person to be able to pull through and keep your head up on your own.. which is what i'm trying to do..of course meeting a new guy would take your mind off of the old one, but when things dont work out with the new guy you're going to feel even more lonely than u did before...try starting over on your own, and loving yourself and giving yourself the respect that you hope some guy will some day give you, trust me, people will begin to notice how happy you are just being you, and that is the moment when the guys will flock your way, when they see how strong a woman can be on her own... and like i said before nobody's perfect, so except your flaws and your ex's flaws and dont dwell on what you could have done differently to change the outcome of the relationship.. if u need to write down a list of things that you did not like about your ex and a list of things that you did like about him..that'll help you set a goal to seek the qualities in new guys that you did like, and to avoid that qualities that u did not like..i know it sounds corney but it helps! i wish you the best of luck..i hope my answer helped if you have any more questions feel free to email me
2007-03-17 13:37:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey if u don't try u will never know, u should move on and there is a lot of good men out there so at least try.
2007-03-17 13:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the new guy a chance and if you don't like him then move on.
2007-03-17 13:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋