My gf of 4 months slept with another guy and amazingly I forgave her only to have to let it go abt 10 days ago because she said her feelings for me change everyday (she may like me one day and have no feelings for me the next).
sent her a txt sayin if you show me your remorseful then id love to b friends. But if your not remorseful about sleeping with another guy then I dont want an apology because you are not worth my time.
I talk to her the 1st time since then and she swears to me that she has told me she apologized, which is untrue. I still think abt her and want to b with her and she says "Sry you feel that way" and then finally she says "Sorry I can apologize, because I dont do apologies."
I am still around her alot and I cant stop thinking about her. My questions are
1 Was the txt too harsh
2 Should I tell her I forgive her completely, and move on (still friends)
3 Should I keep my distance cuz I heard from someone she didnt care abt me wnting a apology.
2007-03-17 06:11:08 · 12 answers · asked by vincy015 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hun, man up!!! You do not deserve for a girl to walk all over you. She cheated on you and for that you should not take her back. If she says she promises she won't do it again, I will guarantee she will. "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" You dated for 4 months. That's not saying a whole alot about her feelings towards you. 4 months is not a long time and for her to already be sleeping with a nother guy... you can do much better. Your txt was fine and you shouldnt worry about whether you were harsh or unharsh. Your being soft and you shouldnt. I would keep my distance. If she wants to be friends, then thats fine... but I wouldnt do anything else with her but friends. If she couldnt even apoligize for sleeping with a nother guy, obviously she doesnt care about you.
You will find a great girl... give it some time. Never settle for less!! Hope this helps ya :)
2007-03-17 06:19:18 · answer #1 · answered by Aj 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1) It was a little harsh but not unjustified.
2) You can forgive her but staying friends? Not a good idea. Like you said, you're around her a lot and can't stop thinking about her. It is going to drive you nuts.
3) Yup, keeping your distance is the best choice. She's not remorseful, she's too proud to apologise, she sometimes has no feelings for you, likes you sometimes, don't give a hoot about your feelings, etc....
Now until she's done playing with your feelings & until you stop letting her do it, you're gonna suffer a long time. She can't decide if she likes you or not, she sleeps around, not remorseful,,,, how long do you want me to go on with this? There is no future at all in this ex-relationship.
You don't have to tell her you forgive her. Tell yourself you forgive her. You're been nice and she gets nastier. Not worth your time anymore. Avoid her like the plague. Realise that, move on and find another girl who will like you, apologise when she's wrong, not sleep around, respect and take care of your feelings....
2007-03-17 06:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's over dude. And you're the winner. It's good u got rid of her now rather than have worse issues later.
Move on and find a decent chick who don't cheat on u.
That line about not doin apologies is the clincher man. Any chick with that attitude don't deserve u. Tell her to beat feet outta your life.
2007-03-17 06:24:29 · answer #3 · answered by Travis M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, people are selfish they tend to use others and have little regard for other peoples feeling. You are better off without someone in your life that doesn't care about if they hurt you. Any person that does not take alot of care on who they slept with , will windup getting something, and they will not feel guilty about spreading it around. so keep your distance , she will not always be around, things change on a regular basis
2007-03-17 06:18:48 · answer #4 · answered by Thelma C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you can try to move on. If she dont care about you why do keep makin a fool of yourself and just get over it cuz who will say she wont cheat on you again if you get back together. You can be friends if you think you can be and quit thinking her as if she was your gf. I wish u the best of luck
2007-03-17 06:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That really sucks. I think you should move on. I know how you feel. I still think of my ex of 3.5 years, there was no real communication between us. I broke it off with her last July.
I don't think she'll ever have true feelings for you if her feelings are always changing. Be patient, you'll meet someone else. I know this is easier said than done,I'm still waiting. Good luck.
2007-03-17 06:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by cy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ex aint the issue it getting over the fact she played you no apology and sorry you feel that way is saying no chance in hell of another shot it not your problem its hers. being friend is something you decide but be willing to find out that later it might have been for no reason to stay around
2007-03-17 06:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Matt D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on buddy. She's not worth it. Screw her one more time, then tell her it's over. Just make sure you wear a condom, if she's cheated on you then there's no telling what diseases she has, plus you don't want the b*tch coming along in a couple of months saying she's pregnant and you might be the father.
2007-03-17 06:16:25 · answer #8 · answered by Dirk J 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! Your ex GF must have been a great piece of *** to have you so pussie whipped.
Time to cowboy up kid. Get some self esteem and move on as fast a you can, sounds like you dodged a bullet.
2007-03-17 06:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by huckleberry1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
feels like there replace into no longer adequate closure for you. artwork out the loss on my own and with help of acquaintances. become in contact in events with acquaintances. come across a woman who respects your values--even if that be liberal or conservative. You deserve greater effective.
2016-10-18 22:28:23 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋