I have been with my current boyfriend for almost a year now and I love him more then anything.I am in school right now and we are both 18. we have a 2 hour long distance relationship but get to see each other most weekends. he didnt graduate high school and had a pretty rough family life. He wants to join the marines because he feels that he will be able to make up for his past decisions and make a difference. he says he will be able to support me this way. I desperatley want him to stay and feel that I will be miserable being in a military relationship. but at the same time I feel that he will never be happy if he doesnt do this. any military wives or girlfriends? please help?
2007-03-17 05:48:20 · 9 answers · asked by rosie 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
You will find out very quickly if you are cut out for the military lifestyle. It is true that if you try to stop him, then he will either resent you, or go any way. It takes a lot of strength and commitment, espically in these war times, to be a military girlfriend/wife. My advice would be let him go, and DO NOT get married until after his first 8 month or more deployment over seas. Why? Because only after a 8 month war deployment of hearing from him once a month or less will you REALLY know what being a military wife is about.
I'm not going to lie to you... the money is not enough (even though his pay doubles after he his married), there are a lot of people that will be mean to you because of your husband job, and you can get lonely. But hun, I'm 19 and my husband is 22. I've been married for 3 months. After my husband went to Iraq the first time I knew that I would be ok with supporting him no matter how long he was away. As long as you love the MAN, you will learn to love the military. The man will change and grow up through his journeys, and if you are a mature young woman then your relationship may have success. If you're someone that wants to party for the next five years and "be young" it probably wont work.
If you ever need anything, or have any other questions email me, and I will give you my regular email address. Best of luck to you, God Bless, and Semper Fi.
2007-03-17 06:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I am a Marine's wife...I served my time as a Marine's Girlfriend and Marine's Fiance as well. We were together for 6 months before he joined the Marines, and we've now been married for 8 yrs and a few months.
It IS hard, I will not lie to you about that. Boot camp when I was 19 and he was 20, I was overdramatic...3 months is SO long. (or so it will seem at the time.) Longer deployments WILL come, but if you are strong,and LOVE this man and the life, you will be fine.
When/If he goes to bootcamp and you are still together, write him EVERY DAY. He will write you just as much (or as often as he can.).
After bootcamp, he will have a few days (10 most likely unless he is approved for Recruiter's Assistance) and then it's back for more training...and more training...and maybe even MORE training! Then he will be at his duty station. (California, North Carolina, or overseas most likely)
My husband and I got engaged after bootcamp...married after MCT (Phase 2 of training) and I moved to his first duty station after his MOS school (training for his particular job). It was a whirlwind...and although I always thought myself scared of change...I truly thrive on it now. Every 3 yrs something new, another ocean, another state, another culture in some cases.
I wish you the best of luck...but to truly know how it is to be a Marine's girlfriend (fiance/wife), you have to know your Marine. If he is a good man...communication and loyalty are not problems, then you have your answer!
2007-03-17 07:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by Amy H 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
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What its like to have a Marine boyfriend?
I have been with my current boyfriend for almost a year now and I love him more then anything.I am in school right now and we are both 18. we have a 2 hour long distance relationship but get to see each other most weekends. he didnt graduate high school and had a pretty rough family life. He wants...
2015-08-04 06:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you have to be prepared . Military life is no piece of cake. However if you truly love the person you are with it can be a good life. You must know how to be self sufficient and get used to spending time alone. You must be strong keep your house running with out him home and know that he does not control where he goes or when he goes there. Prepare to be flexible and to let your life move around the corps. Get a degree in a field that allows you the flexibility to either work from home or to easily find a job every 3 or 4 years. I say that cause the money is not great and you will need to work. This is from a wife's point of view. Go with your BF to the recruiter and listen to him and make sure you know as much as your Boyfriend knows. Educate yourself and you will be fine.
2007-03-17 07:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by raynelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as he isn't going to DI school, you're fine, there's nothing wrong with having a Marine as a boyfriend. In fact it can prove to be a little exciting at times but if he wants to go to DI school, keep away from him until he finishes. Sometimes they have a tendency to get a little violent in their sleep. My DI's wife woke up with a blood nose several times.
Yes, I was in the Marines.
2007-03-17 05:55:28 · answer #5 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well first he has to have a high school diploma/ the marines last i knew dont accept a ged. just the army does.get used to not seeing him because once he leaves for basic and ait you wont see him for like a year or more depending on his mos. you wont want to hear this part but a lot of guys break up with the girlfriends they leave behind because it hurts to much to not see them and they can bare the pain of someone sitting waiting for them so they cut them lose so they can get on with their lives marines are deployed for a year at a time too
2007-03-17 06:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-04-02 08:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question, it will be a brief romance. At your age, neither of you are old enough to have a lasting relationship. When he is gone, the romance will fade - he will mature by being away from home and experiencing real life, you will mature by moving on with a career.
You are not a military wife...you are an 18 year old girl. He is not a well-educated 18 year old and needs to finish school and grow up. The Marines may not even take him if he hasn't completed high school.
2007-03-17 06:47:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
Marines will give you constant orgasms
2007-03-17 05:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by arkainisofphoenix 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Penniless, the goverment will take care of you and not your man.
2007-03-17 06:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋