Ok so I did something terrible last night and I'm just looking for advice on what to do about it now. I feel really horrible so don't bother responding by just telling me how awful I am because I already know. So last night me and my boyfriend went out and invited another couple we know to go with us. We were having a good time but before I knew it me and my boyfriend were angry about each other for something. Our friends could feel the tension but we just silently decided to talk about it later because it wasn't a big deal. But the tension kept escalating and we ended up excusing ourselves and having a big fight in the parking lot. To make matters worse the 4 of us drove together so we left and just drove home in the awkwardly silent car. Me and my boyfriend worked things out and we're fine but we both feel really awful about inviting them out and then fighting in front of them. How do we tell them we are sorry or should we just pretend it didn't happen? Thanks
2007-03-17 05:48:10 · 5 answers · asked by jrtootsiepop 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If these are good friends that you will go out with again then address the issue with them. It could be however that the discomfort was yours alone and they think nothing about it. If they are just casual friends then maybe just let it be. It has been my experience that when making an emotional decision that the hardest thing to do is usually the right thing to do. Good luck
2007-03-17 06:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by al 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally - I would apologize as soon as possible, and not let any ill feelings they experienced set in. Never pretend it didn't happen.
You might go and get a gift certificate for dinner for two at their favorite restaurant, give it to them with an invitation to join the two of you if they would like. This way - If they are very upset about the experience - they can go out alone - on your tab - and maybe develop some softer feelings about trying to go out with you two again later.
I pray things work out for y'all.
Peace.
2007-03-17 13:06:01 · answer #2 · answered by Depoetic2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all they are a couple too so I'm sure they have had their share of fights so they will understand. The proper thing to do is to appoligize at once. Invite them out again and leave your personal problems at the door so to speak.
Good luck with the next double date.
2007-03-17 13:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by CarynB 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simply appologize with words. If they are good friends, they'll understand. Invite them on another double date. Trust me, this is not something that makes you a horrible person. Sure, it was a little rude, but you couldn't do anything about it. Just tell them you're sorry about being rude and ruining their night, and that you'd like to make it up to them with another double date.
2007-03-17 12:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Spikey Paws 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say this but no matter what you decide to do you already look like a loser and either they laughed at you both later or were discusted, those impressions will always be there. The best way to amend is really to learn from this. Normal relationships do not have these public outbursts. You can appologise to be polite, but dont expect them to be overly sypathetic, it probably embarassed them to witness that. Just move on.....
2007-03-17 12:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋