why do some parents do all the chores for their children?

Question

I see on here and when i went to college some many kids who did not even know how to do laundry. There parents still came in their room got their clothes washed and folded it for them They never had to wash a dish or clean up after themselves and then they get to college and are complete pigs. I have been washing my own clothes since the six grade and if did not wash i had dirty clothes. even if you don't have a washer in your home you should make them go with you so they know how. What do your kids do

Answer 1

Those are the kids that will end up being spoiled brats. My oldest one who is 5 cleans her room, makes her bed. I will wash her clothes and she puts them away. You need to teach them responsibility when they are young, so when they do get into the real world, they understand that life isn't handed to them on a platter. I probably have 3 of the best kids. They never complain about bedtime, their rooms are always neat. Very respectful. I am very proud of my children.

Answer 2

Maybe they think it's part of being a good parent, when in all actuality, they aren't doing their children any favors, as it doesn't teach them how to do it themselves. I raised three sons & when they were toddlers, they were taught to pick up their toys. When they got a little older, they learned how to make their beds, & hang up their clothes, & put their clothes in their dressers. When I washed dishes, they wanted to stand on a chair next to me & help. They got more water on themselves, but they had fun, & I did too. They liked to help set the table around five years of age, & I showed them what went where on the table. If it wasn't exactly right, I never changed a thing, but I did praise them for a job well done, & that included all that they did to help me out around the house, because I knew that when they were adults, they'd know how to do things. When it came to laundry, they each had their own clothes hamper & the clothes had to be in them, or the clothes didn't get washed. I only had to say "that" once. They loved to help me load the washer & dryer, & fold the clothes. I'm so glad I taught them well, because now, they're married & help their wives around the house. I might add that their children are being taught to help out as well.

Answer 3

Parents tend to forget that someone, somewhere along the line had to teach them these things. It's hard work being a parent. I taught my kids from a very early age to make their own meals, fix stuff ... the important things. I made it fun. [ I went through a paranoid stage where I thought I might die suddenly at some point and didn't want my kids to be totally helpless if something happened to me and there was no around to look after them right away.]

Yeah. If you don't have a washer in your home, either take them to a place that does or teach them to wash by hand. Sometimes things just happen where the modern conveniences we've grown so accustomed to just aren't available all the time.

Answer 4

I agree that some kids grow up pretty lazy, not all of it their fault, but the parents' fault. Fortunatly, my parents made my siblings & me do chores. I've done my laundry since I was 12.
I think many parents don't have the patience it takes to teach children to do a chore and do it right. If it's not done perfect, they have to go behind them & redo it. It's just easier to do it for them, but they do their child a great injustice. My oldest is four & I was wondering when I should start her on chores. Well, she pretty much did it herself by watching me as an example. She begged me to set the table one night to "make it pretty", so now that's one of her chores (besides cleaning her room, of course.) Chores can be made fun for kids of all ages. You can make a game of it!

If a parent reads this that does everything for their kids, please start now. It's never too late. They will thank you when they are older! Believe me, I thought my parents were mean when I was younger, but I'm so glad I know how to keep a clean house & I'm greatful! ( somewhat clean, I have 4 small children! lol )

Answer 5

To me this is to handicap your child. Every child needs to know how to cook, clean, launder and shop for basics. They will need to know how to sew on a button or repair a small item. Equal skills with an oilcan and a screwdriver as well as with a skillet and a broom. These basics of life are necessary if you want to live in reasonable comfort. I think a lot a parents are too damn lazy to teach the children from when they are small. They are too impatient to allow them to learn. It is a stupid way to bring up youngsters. Young people have open minds, they love to learn new things. My two - a son and a daughter - are both adults now and very competent and have lived away from home since their late teens. I never had to worry for them. I knew they were fine. They still are. And I am so proud of them. My children showed interest in all I did from when they were tiny so I let them take turns at things. In time we had rebellions of "why should I" but we overcame those days and now they are glad I persisted.

Good luck to you as you are not afraid of keeping yourself and surroundings clean and can care for yourself. The others have been made social cripples by their parents. It is a shame.

Best wishes,

Lisa

Answer 6

Because it is the road of least resistance…

Rather than having to put in the effort of disciplining their children, too many of today's parents just do what their kids want and wind up paying for it later.

I'm a single mom; my son is almost 16 and has been doing his laundry since he was 10, washing dishes since before that, etc. It started when he was a toddler and learned that he had to put what he was playing with away before taking out something else, and so on. The responsibilities have to grow along with the child. He's also been doing odd jobs around the neighborhood since about 8 to earn spending money.

He used to complain about how his friends' parents do these things for them, and I've explained how those parents aren't doing their kids any favors by not teaching them how to be independent. Now that he's gotten older he can see for himself the difference between those families and the relationship that he and I have.

Answer 7

My daughter is in 5th grade and is just now starting to wash
dishes (growling the whole time). But I told her she is lucky
I was washing dishes when I was younger then her. And you
are so right a lot of kids have things done for them and then
they are lost when they get out on their own. I do let her see
how I do the laundry and sometimes get her help in doing
it because I had to learn when I moved out from my parents.
I kept calling mom and asking how much bleach do I use
or for when the kids were babies how do I get baby food
stains out of this or that. Yeah she is learning before she
gets out on her own!!

Answer 8

Because parents are so used to making decisions for their kids and it's much easier. By doing chores for your kids, you are able to control how the work is done. Children often do a crappy job with chores and it tends to work for them--they end up not having to do them in the long run. I'm not condoning it, I just understand why. It's hard to give up control.

Answer 9

every parent has his/her own reasons for why do they certain things for their kids, including laundry. but not all parents who did laundry for their kids have sloppy pigs for kids. i never did laundry until i went away for college (and the first few batches of laundry were ruined! (",) hehe... ), but i don't think not knowing how to do laundry then made me a sloppy pig.

anyway, i think for some parents, they like to do laundry for their kids perhaps bec when they were younger, they used to do their own laundry and hated it... and now they don't want their kids to feel the same frustration they felt when they were younger.

another reason may be that they'd rather have their kids worrying about their books and grades instead of laundry...

Answer 10

Yes, I've seen that happen, too.
It's sad when a 19-year old comes to the laundromat and looks at a washing machine like it's a spaceship.
I guess some parents see it as easier to do things then to keep asking for things to be done.