im a young christian and i feel i always sining against my beliefs i feel like i only ask and talk to god when i need him i dnt mean to be his way but i keep doin it has any1 got any sugestions on this.
also im still a virgin and i really want to have sex i no its wrong but i dnt no if i can wait to i get married i want to experiment see whats out there is that really wrong, how can i stop feeling this way?
2007-03-17 05:38:06 · 32 answers · asked by clo m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
we all struggle with what we should do and what we want to do, it is only by doing those things that we know as right that we become strong adult individuals.
look around you at those that follow their basic instincts, at the diseases that are being spread around the world because of immorality.
it is the choices that we make that separate us from the animals and give us a life worth living.
2007-03-17 05:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Hannah's Grandpa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you're never going to stop feeling this way. Sex is good, God established it and praise his name for that! One thing that makes it hard for Christians is that half of the world thinks that sex is dirty (which it totally isn't) the other half thinks that the world revolves around it. Having sex now will not make you feel satisfied, nor will getting married to have sex. It is not a cure-all not even the "Pinnacle expression of love" Jesus said the greatest expression of love is to lay ones life down for a friend. There are emotional, social, physical, and spiritual consequences to having pre or extra marital sex. The Bible says that when a man and woman have sex they become as one. There is so much more that I have to say about this topic. If you would like to talk further on this you can email me, I am co-leader at a non-denominational christian student group and we do a thing called Split night where we talk about things like this once a month. I would love to be of some help.
2007-03-17 06:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by mamma_reggie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to find someone that is a strong Christian to help you thru the time that your in and help make you accountable. Someone to pray with and confide in.
As to your thoughts about "experiment and see whats out there"? I can tell you what is out there. There are STD's, HIV - a whole list of alphabet soup of disease that you can get into. If you don't know - you are not just sleeping with the person that you are with, but every other person that THEY have been with as well. Many diseases don't show up for a period of time. Just because YOU may think that they look 'healthy and have no problems' doesn't mean that such is the reality.
Ever seen someone die of AIDS? I have. Do you really want to take the chance on getting something more than what you are looking to "experiment" with?
Take time to be the age that you are. Sex is not something someone "experiments" with. It is an physical exchange between people that is an expression of LOVE - not even close to a science project that you "experiment" with.
2007-03-17 06:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Toe the line 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong about what you are feeling, it's natural. The church will have you believe you are a dirty aweful sinful person because that's how they keep you in check. The truth is that sin is a make believe thing. There is nobody keeping a tally of your thoughts and your actions, and when you die... that's it, there's not heaven or hell... it's all wishful thinking.
You should entertain your feelings and not let your religion give you unwanted stress. Be careful too... i'm not advocating that you go out there and "**** it up." But humans are sexual creatures and when you meet someone that it feels right with and you are responsible about it then it can be a very positive thing.
No sex before marriage is a dangerous proposition. I had a friend who was ultra Christian and she jumped into a bad marriage because she wanted to have sex. Needless to say, she got divorced less than a year later. The point here is this, you don't drive a car only after you buy it... no sane person would do that. You go out there and you test drive a few to find the one that is just right for you. It is the same with life.
Best of luck.
2007-03-17 05:45:58 · answer #4 · answered by ChooseRealityPLEASE 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You feel like you are sinning because you probly are, but you can be forgiven and turn from it. Nobody said it was easy, it's very difficult actually. Stand strong and remember you will never be given more than you can handle. I would suggest talking to Him and telling him exactly how you feel on it, He wants to know ALL about you. If you are watching a funny movie, tell Him you'd like Him to watch it with you, you can actually get the sense He smiles at you if you pay attention. Just be open to Him about things and share, He will be open with you too.
As far as sex goes, wait. So many chances for things to go wrong that it's not worth the risk. Your desire to experiement is temptation, you are being tempted into a wordly action. I would suggest asking Him to keep you from it, to take it from you that you might not sin. The temptation will follow you and stalk you, waiting for you to get weak, you have to be strong and resist it.
2007-03-17 05:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Stahn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All new believers go through this. You are in transition. You must take control of your feelings. That is how Eve started this messed up way of life. Read, read, read your Bible. Talk to GOD while you read. Keep a journal write your questions down. When HE answers write down the answer. If you truly want to change you'll keeping fighting the good fight of faith. Flee temptations. "Take captive every thought that exalts it's self above the knowledge of GOD." So you must know the knowledge of GOD. Take captive all thought, examine it's origin and purpose. Will it build up your faith or tear down your faith. If it brings you closer to the mind of Christ it's worth speaking out for yourself and to yourself. You listen to you better than anyone else. Self talk is your best friend or your worst enemy. Out of the issues of the heart the mouth speaks. If you change the way you think you'll change the way you talk. If, you change what you hear and see you'll change what you think. What you hear and see will shape your mind which is your heart (not the blood pumping heart). The center of your intelligence. Your will and emotions follow your heart, your mind. Anything you think about consistently you will do. Good or Bad.
2007-03-17 06:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by pmb-wants-to-know 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally normal, i often feel like that 2.
the key thing is to pray, even though God knows everything about you He still likes to talk to you. It sounds really weird but- update him on your day, how your feeling etc. Christianity is about having a friendship with God. He likes to talk to you just like any friend would.
about the whole sex thing, this is Satan trying to get you to question your beliefs and getting you to disobey God. don't give in to temptation. Try to remove the temptation from your life, pray about it and get christian friends etc to pray for you too. read the bible as well, so that you can see what God says about it.
I'll pray for you as well, if that will help.
Hope that you find this clears up anything you are wondering about. Just remember you are not alone in this situation. David, Joseph and many other characters in the bible had sexual temptation and/ or felt distant from God. the key thing is not that you have it but what you do about it.
god bless
xx
2007-03-20 07:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and he will direct your path.
I quoted that because If you let God help he will keep you saved. Jesus went thru the same temptations you experienced and did not sin. God will supply your every
NEED
not your every want. Our wants may not be and in some cased is not want we should have.
I know what it is like to regarding what you are going thru when it comes to sex. Life is more than having the experience of sex. I do not want to say too much because I want be of christian help not a bug.
2007-03-17 06:21:37 · answer #8 · answered by 1saintofGod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Herpes is definitely one of those embarrassing and stressful anomalies that we all wish to avoid throughout our lives. Though, sometimes, we have no choice but to endure it. Bad luck I guess, and maybe even the result of the one time you decided not to use a condom.
For myself, I tried all kinds of different treatments and solutions, both prescription and over-the-counter. It seemed like nothing would work or give me any real results. The only thing that I seemed to experience was negative side effects and frustration. Plus, knowing I would have to use these treatments for the rest of my life didn't make things much better.
It wasn't until I checked online for alternative or natural remedies for herpes. Eventually, I came across http://herpestreatment.kyma.info worked like a charm.
With the resources and knowledge provided, I was able to completely rid myself of the herpes condition. Not just treat it, but actually cure it.
Best of all, it was done naturally- and the bumps/warts have not resurfaced since. So, I know how you feel. Herpes sucks, and sucks bad.
It leaves you bitter about the one who gave it to you, and insecure about yourself, and the possibility of giving it to future partners. I understand the dilemma all too well.
However, there are real solutions and options out there. I wish the best of luck to you, and a speedy recovery!
2014-10-05 12:51:54 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand strong little one. The devil will tempt you with every fun thing there is to dangle in front of you. Go to church, read your bible~go Sunday School so you can begin to understand what the bible is telling you.
Talking to God when you need him is a good thing but try to talk to him and thank him for his blessings when you don't need him (actually, we always need him) and this will help you draw closer to him and make you strong enough to stand up against the temptatations that are put befor you. And the suggestion to read Roman's seven and eight is a good one. Paul stated that the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak...a truer statement was never made. We all want to be the best we can be but our flesh wants what it wants...just keep talking to God because he will always hear you and do what is best for you. I will pray that the Lord put someone in your life to help you learn about what the Lord is doing for you, to pray with and for you and to help guide you along in your new walk with the Lord. And last but not least you can have a great lot of fun being a christian. You don't have to party all the time and go about having sex just because it's there. Casual sex is a dangerous thing; HIV, AIDS, hundreds of std's, pregnancy, mental and emotional stress. It's just dangerous. Stay strong, pray, read your bible, go to Sunday school.
Sounds like a lot I know but it is so worth it to spend eternity with Jesus.
NO JESUS...NO PEACE!! KNOW JESUS...KNOW PEACE!!!
2007-03-17 06:03:25 · answer #10 · answered by valducci53 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
God bless you for your honesty.
Remember that temptaion is not sin.
Also there is forgiveness. (Read ...and claim.... 1 JOHN 1: 9
God invented sex so it is not wrong to have sexual feelings. I found it hard to wait but (after 36 years happily married years) I am glad I did.
Don't let the enemy tell you that feelings are sin, either.
Make sure that you attend a good Church, Bible Study, etc.
You will be in my prayers
2007-03-17 09:15:28 · answer #11 · answered by alan h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋