Am I being paranoid??

Question

My son just turned 5 in February. He is a sweet and loving little guy. But he is very hyper and rudely interrupts people when they are talking. He also does not listen very well, if he is told to clean up his room or toys from the living room he refuses, telling me "No I am not going to do it". He is always wild and his attention span seems short at times. I am freaking out and thinking that he may have ADD/ADHD. He has many of the signs. But then again he is five, so I am hoping that he outgrows this phase. No he has not been to preschool, but will be starting Kindergarten in the fall. I wanted to stay home with him and not pay to have others pretty much raise him for me. I am wondering if he may change once he gets into school, and is in a more structured environment. I do preschool work with him during the week. Any other parents had this problem when their son was this age, and if so did they grow out of it. I do not want to fill him full of chemicals. Any help please please???

Yeah I am much more apt to give in due to the fact that I love him and he is so darn cute, and he knows just how to get me to give in. His father is much more strict, but he acts up more when he is home. I think with my husband he acts out for attention., since he does not see him nearly as much as me.
I plan on getting him into some sports soon, we just moved so we are still getting settled in. I think some soccer or t ball will help him get used to the rule thing.
I have a friend who is a preschool teacher and she told me most if not all the kids in her class act completely different when they see their parents.
So yes I know some of it is us. I do not really blame him, I just worry. It is a mothers instinct. Thanks for all the helpful advice.

Peace out ya'll!!!

I actually ment like daycare. I wanted to put him in preschool. But where we lived was very expensive, and it didnt make sense for us. I wish he would have went. I wasnt trying to sound mean or anything. We just couldnt afford it. We lived with my mother in law and she watched him while we worked. Like I worked at night and my hubby has odd hours. ANywhere from 7 am-4 pm or 12 pm to 10- pm.

Answer 1

Before you start freaking out, I would suggest reading this book about ADD/ADHD. The book is called The ADD Answer by Dr. Frank Lawlis. I have found that this is the best source of information about ADD and better testing options to better diagnose kids. My daughter was misdiagnosed with ADHD when what the problem was some food sensitivities and her not getting enough sleep.
From what you have said about your son, it seem very normal. Boys are just wired that way. I have really noticed that with my 8 year old nephew and my 2 boys. Just let him be him right now. Once he gets into school and picks up the school routine, things should settle down, at least at school. He might get more "wild" at home, but that will be in response to him having to control himself at school (which is totally normal as well). It does get better, for the most part, as he gets older and further in school. School might be a great thing for him as it provides a very structured environment and that tends to help learn acceptable behavior and expectations. You might want to put him in a MDO program a couple of times a week. It is a great way to begin to introduce "school" so that it is not so intimidating when he starts Kindergarten.
It also sounds like he is testing his boundaries as well. Consistent rules and discipline measures will help him and you. This testing is normal and has nothing to do with ADD/ADHD or ODD.

Answer 2

my son was also like that and that is why I put him in preschool he only goes 3 days a week for 2 and a half hrs so no one else is raising him it helped him alot to have the structure he is still hyper but I wouldn't have it any other way whenever he is playing with children they follow him around he is the leader little girls are always saying that they are his girl friend I hope his outspoken nature never changes I want him to be a leader not a follower I believ that yes it can be challengin but with the right skills it can be an amazing gift to have the energy and assertivenessand it will take them well through school.
My son is on a good diet and excercise program
he is on a very specific scheduale
and is around plenty of other kids all hepled with his behaviour but I would Never try to make him calm down
so as long as he is not hurting anyone
yes discipline him but also be glad your child is not afraid to speak or stand up for himself

Answer 3

Short attention span and high energy may be just a normal 5 year old but the rudeness and rebellion are discipline problems. You need serious intervention on how to discipline him before he gets to school. A professional evaluation may be needed for ADD but most little boys do not need drugs....they need physical activity and firm, consistent, loving correction. The little guys need to be civilized and that is taught ...not automatic.... behavior. Watch super nanny or get counseling from an early childhood specialist.

Answer 4

Maybe you should set some rules with him. He is at an age that he can understand what rules are and learn how to follow them. And if he doesn't follow them, there are consequences to those rules. Such as He needs to clean up whatever he plays with, he needs to use his listening ears when someone is talking to him because its rude when someone tells you something and you do not listen and if someone is talking he needs to be patient and wait his turn to talk. These are simple rules that you can explain to him and work with him to make you feel better about yourself and get him ready for school. As for having him in preschool paying for someone to raise him is slightly untrue. You are the parent, you are the one raising him. No matter what he looks up to you and your husband the most, you are his most infuential people in his life.

Answer 5

Okay, my sister has ADD and ADHD those symptoms sound like he may have it. I suggest that you monitor him over the next few weeks then if it gets worse go to the doctor's office and see if you can get the test to see if he has it. And you are not being paranoid because these things happen. I have not raised a child of my own but he may grow out of it. You should do some researching online and read about children who have ADD or ADHD and then see if they have the same symptoms as your son.

Answer 6

You might want to check into his diet for a start. Try taking him off all sugar and artificial foods (and NO SOY). Lots of protein and vegetables. You could take him to a nutritionalist to help.

He definitely does NOT have ADHD or ADD. (check out the CCHR website for the truth ADD, etc.)

Once the diet changes you might find a lot more cooperation. You're very smart not wanting to fill him full of chemicals.

I hope this helps.

Answer 7

It sounds like he may have ADHD. I would wait til he starts school and see if the teacher has any problems with him. My daughter has ADHD and was diagnosed at 6 and started medicine then, It helped a whole lot.

Answer 8

Ok first off I have to say that my choose in putting my son in pre-school has nothing to do with having someone else raise him. Pre-school prepares children for kindergarten. Since my son has started pre-school he pays more attention to me and listens more. It isn't because I wasn't doing a good job it was because he was able to see other children behaving correctly and getting rewarded while he was "sitting out". Consider putting him in pre-school now before kindergarten starts. It'll be for his benefit and yours. Good luck

Answer 9

you should try the techniques from Nanny 911 like the naughty chair and getting down to his level. Make him a chart with the steps to clean his room with pictures to represent items like clothing and toys. make it where he can move a little car along the street of CLEAN ROOM and give him a reward when he gets to the end of the street or somethinglike that like a snack or a cheap toy.

Answer 10

Sadly this is normal behavior, he will change once he starts school so no worries....H is acting his age.