My guy left me. Disappeared. I am devestated. I can't get my mind around it. I know he's gone but everytime the phone rings my heart races hoping to hear his voice. I am tempted to turn it off because I can't stand the sick feeling I get but I can't bring myself to do it "just in case". I know he isn't calling back and that he doesn't want me anymore but I can't help wishing things were different.
How can I begin to heal when I can't even see its for the best. (my mind sees it but my heart refuses) When will my heart stop racing at every phone call. When will I accept things as they are and not as I want them to be?
Any suggestions would be great. Also any advice on how to make the pain go away? What is the first step....I want to feel better.
thanks.
2007-03-17 05:34:01 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find you a good ole 1 nighter and that will help you to forget him
2007-03-17 05:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your position, I feel your pain and I understand what you are going through. I got through it from keeping a journal, spending time with my friends, keeping busy with school and work, and just trying to live my life the best way I know how. Truthfully, nothing really makes you feel better right away, there's no miracle here. You need to just go through these emotions for a while and then when enough time and distance has passed, you'll begin to see things in a different light. This is going to take time, only time can take the memory of him away and lessen the heartache and loneliness you feel.
Be assured that you will take away from this experience, a better sense of who you are and end up feeling stronger. I look back to the guy that broke my heart and now I realized he was all wrong for me in the first place, but it took a lot of pain and tears for me to go through in order to realize that.
This is a part of life, this is what makes us grow, you're going to be ok and when all of this is done and over you will see him for what he really is. He's probably not the man who can love you the way you need to be loved, and some day you willl see, that you can only be with a man who loves you the way you want to be loved.
2007-03-17 05:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Kaylin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
turning off your phone sounds like a good idea. then pack your bags and take a trip with the girls. the guy may be gone, but your life isn't over. what you need to do now is take some classes, throw yourself into your work, volunteer. anything to keep your mind busy. what's to say Mr Right isn't right around the corner.
2007-03-17 05:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to someone about it first. You're best friend maybe.
If that doesn't work, think of the bad things about him. Try if you can find another guy. It'll definitely get your mind off him and on another, who may not desert you.
2007-03-17 05:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by rosesofchaos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time heals all wounds. outside of that, the next best thing is to either stay busy with friends/family/hobbies or to dive right in with someone else.
2007-03-17 05:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats horrible.
First, Resolve with yourself that someone left you with no words as to why.
Second, Heal yourself with tranquil timeouts.
2007-03-17 05:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by lovehateleavestay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will just take time, you can search up how to get over someone on google for good advice. like one person said get a dog especially a daschund (weiner dog).my mom has one and i think she loves it more then she loves my dad.
2007-03-17 05:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny Brandofino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy you a dog or a cat something to help take your mind off him......
2007-03-17 05:39:46 · answer #8 · answered by drflavio309 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋