How did it go? Do you think it worked?
2007-03-17 05:27:55 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What did they tell you? what do you wish they would've told you?
I am just curious to know.
2007-03-17 06:16:57 · update #1
It was left up to my Mom because my Dad always worked...
It wasn't an 'official' talk... it took place over years, starting at maybe 5 or 6...
I was taught to read early in life... biology & health books were always easy to get to so I could read up on details.
I was very fortunate to grow up on a farm...anything 'natural' that took place was explained to me immediately and in a factual yet casual way...
I saw seeds in the garden germinate, grow and produce veggies. I watched bees pollinate flowers on the trees to produce fruit later on. I witnessed fertilized eggs develop (flashlight) & eventually hatch into chicks, ducklings, goslings or baby turkeys...and I observed cats having kittens.....(it was easy to put 2 and 2 together by remembering what the rooster did to the chicken and the tomcat do to one of my cats months earlier.)
My Mom also made comments when we watched t.v. together...either PBS programs or regular show.... The little comments amazingly stuck with me.
I felt it went well and it worked... I learned very early on about actions and consequences.
The topic wasn't 'drilled' into my head nor was it a huge secret. I didn't have to ask any uncomfortable questions because it was answered before I could formulate the question in my mind.
I learned patience through these lessons.
I felt this 'method' worked for me because I waited for the right guy to come into my life... I stayed away from major stupid activities growing up...I saw others get involved and I avoided bad things... I really didn't have to make all of my own mistakes with is a real time-saver.
I'm a relatively unscathed, fairlyy content adult now.
My folks gave me the basic tools to want to be informed and get the information from reliable sources before leaping into unknown territory.
When I'm a parent I would hope I can do what my folks did for me....open information in a casual setting in small increments of time instead of one intensive, frightening, embarrassing "talk".
I know I'm far from perfect but compared to many other people I know I faired well.
Hope this helps in a small way... sorry about the life story but I thought it would best illustrate a different approach... a subtle one.
Good luck to you!
2007-03-17 06:21:33 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They didn't do it as well as they could have. What they did helped a lot.
Generally parents should be open with their children about sex from about age 8. That way there are no surprises once they go through puberty and by that time the parents have established open communication about it so the child is more likely to come to them with questions. Schools on the other hand shouldn't touch the issue until about 7th or 8th grade. This should be a private topic handled respectfully between parents and children.
2007-03-17 05:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my parents didn't even tell me about , the monthly thing that as a woman I would have. Sometimes people are very uncomfortable about talking to their children. Because they are afraid they might confuse you are tell you to much.If there is an aunt or old sister or If you a guy. someone that you can talk to ask the questions of them , if you feel that you can trust what they tell you or go on line and look up on Internet the question that you have. We all get information from different sources. But hey don't sweat the parent thing it is their problem not yours.
2007-03-17 05:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Thelma C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They told me the same time they told my sisters. There is a 3 year difference between us, so I didn't like that they held it from me for 3 years, so they could get it over with at one time.
It went well, but I didn't really get to ask any questions. It worked, but I wish they had a better way than they did.
2007-03-17 05:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by ARMY Babe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents and I never had a "birds and the bees" talk. I pretty got my first idea of sex from television (sad), and then just put two and two together.
2007-03-17 05:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by LaFemmeNakia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. My mom didnt tell me anything. No one told me about the birds and the bee's. Not even the school nurse!!!!
2007-03-17 05:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by lovehateleavestay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they didn't tell me about the "birds and the bees". The first time I did it I got stung.
2007-03-17 05:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
birds and bees? you mean the guys and girls talk? oh i had taht when i was 13 but it didnt work out because i was already learnign about it in school.
pleasee tell me what you mean by birds and bees
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2007-03-17 05:31:45 · answer #8 · answered by Dillon C (who else) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a "birds and the bees conversation"?
2007-03-17 05:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Skater Angel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you preparing to tell or learn?
Actually, my TV taught me almost everything. The rest was gradually talked about. My mom and dad are pretty open about these things and are willing to talk about health.
2007-03-17 06:11:21 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ pandaheart ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋