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2007-03-17 05:27:44 · 23 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I waited until I was married. I feel that sex should be reserved to be used inside of a marriage relationship. Outside of a marriage relationship, all kinds of negative consequences can occur, such as unplanned pregnancy, STD's, etc.
2007-03-17 05:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is really a personal choice - I don't see anything wrong with premarital sex, but I would never recommend that anyone do something that they and their partner weren't completely comfortable with. In committed relationships, a lot of couples now live together before marriage - I don't see anything wrong with that either, and would be VERY surprised if sex is not a part of any of those relationships.
Waiting until marriage is a nice thought and works for some, but I think it would put unneccessary stress and anxiety into the wedding night and honeymoon. If you've been together physically for a while before marriage, you will have figured out what does and doesn't work for the two of you, and can focus on making it a special time. Rather than any kind of awkwardness, the honeymoon can be about the fulfillment of another step in your relationship (ie. the marriage itself).
Just make sure that whatever you do, you know yourself well enough to know that you won't regret it.
2007-03-17 09:03:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm for it. I think you should have only sleep with the people you love, but let's be honest: a lot of relationships don't work out. So, by the time you're married, you'll have some experience and won't need to jump over the whole "I'm a virgin; I don't know what to do" hurdle.
One user commented that the person she lost her virginity to holds something of her's. I really don't agree with that. I don't think it's all that important who you lose your virginity to and whether or not it's your husband (or wife). Everyone always makes a big deal out of their first time, but honestly, I don't even remember mine and that was five years ago!
Neither my fiancee or I are virgins (we live together). And I'm glad that I know what I'm doing in the bedroom and not learning it as I go along.
2007-03-17 11:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the people and their needs. If they prefer to wait until after marriage, that's fine.
For some people, they have pre-marital relations to see if they are compatible.
MOST people do have pre-marital relations. I know my parents did.
Sex is a big part of marriage. If the couple is not sexually compatible, the marriage dies.
In my situation, we did have pre-marital relations ONLY because we were definitely getting married. I wouldn't have done it otherwise and I am glad I did.
2007-03-17 08:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by Tara662 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a choice every individual has to make depending on their personal beliefs, with that said, in my opinion, I would never marry anyone that I hadn't had sex with. Sex is an important part of a relationship just as honesty and communication. I'm not condoning sleeping around with this, that and the other one though, but if you're in a committed partnership and considering marriage then I think it's a smart idea.
2007-03-17 06:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try before you buy!
Seriously though, I am not of the traditional religious vane and since that's where all that crud comes from (society couldn't give LESS of a crap, as long as your over 18 and responsible!), if you want to have sex before you get married, then by all means do.
Its a free country; if you're going to let society govern what you do behind closed doors, you may as well move to China or Cuba or some other communist country.
2007-03-17 09:40:46 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try before you buy. It's always the way forward.
If you have strong religious views or are not mature then it's not for you.
Trust your instinct. There is no right or wrong answer only what is correct for your own personal situation.
Whatever your decision is it has to rest easy with your own conscience. Think of all the consequences to you and your immediate families and friends. You will know when it is right.
2007-03-17 05:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jimbobarino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is up to you on that. It all depends on a persons morals and standards. I regretably lost my virginity at a very young age (obviously wasn't married) . Now I wish I would have waited. I have also known of people to wait until marriage and then it does not work out becuase once they lost their virgintiy after marriage they wanted to experience different people. I have now been married for 6 years and I am happily married. My husband and I both had sex before marriage.
2007-03-17 06:25:38 · answer #8 · answered by mother of 3 angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it adds unnecessary stress to a relationship...the couple focuses more in the intimate part and not getting to know each other. I think it needs to wait until the honeymoon, I personally think it's unsafe to be intimate with everyone that you are with. Now days it seems people put more focus on the sex part then once they get married they find out they don't like each other very much.
2007-03-17 06:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should know someone sexually as well as emotionally. If a relationship isn't mutually satisfying sexually, it could be the beginning of bigger problems. I know religiously people have their qualms because it is their belief and I respect that. I would never push religious beliefs on anyone. If this is a discussion with religion removed, you should absolutely go for it, as many times as you can over and over. It gets better as your relationship grows if you commit to each others satisfaction. Oh, and until you are married, use protection, and before you stop using it, get tested for every STD since it is better to be safe.
2007-03-17 05:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Yisrael Chai 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋