I am my best friends maid of honour. Last month we went to a bridal shower. Since then she has piked her dress started on her decorations etc.
There is another Bridal shower today and she wants to go, but she wants me to go to. I've made plans and have a really busy day ahead of me; should I cancell something and go to this show? I don't really want to and I think it's a waste of time seeing as she has picked everything out.It's fine for her to go, but she may throw a brides fit if I don't go.
What should I do?
2007-03-17 05:22:49 · 9 answers · asked by Honestly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Her mom is going and I know she will throw a "brides fit" b/c she said on the phone this morning that I'd better be there and not "backing out on my duties". Remember this is my BEST FRIEND, I'm not judging her, I know her and I know how she is. You can bet she will be upset.
2007-03-17 06:12:05 · update #1
If she has all of her stuff already, I don't see what the problem would be, tell her she has a duty of being your friend too, and you shouldn't have to cancel plans that you already had
2007-03-17 07:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by buckeyefever7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've agreed to be her maid of honour which is a big title in itself. If you were just a bridesmaid, then I think you could get away with a decline, but bridal shows don't happen often and this is a very important time in her life.
Personally, I think you should go and join her in attending this bridal show. After all, you took on the title and responsibility when you accepted to be MAID of HONOUR. You didn't mention in your question that you had to work and that you would loose out on a day's wage for attending so I assume that whatever plans you made can be re-scheduled.
When I was Maid of Honour (twice) I did everything I could to help out the bride and to make her feel like she's the center of attention. That was my "unofficial" job and I took it seriously because I accepted that important role to begin with.
If you accept it, you should follow through.
2007-03-17 06:14:53 · answer #2 · answered by ButterflyBride 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be realistic, tell her that you have already made plans and appologize for not being able to go along. Also, a "brides fit"? Don't be so quick to judge either, you haven't even told her. It's pretty annoying when people always think that whenever a bride to be gets upset over anything that they are being a royal pain in the A**! People who arn't getting married and want their close friend to go out with them have the potential of getting upset if the other isn't able to come.
I never made my maid of honour do any of those things with me though. I went with my Mom to pick out my dress, and get the invitations, and tons of other things. The only thing that we all went out together for, was for the maid of honour and bridesmaid dresses.
A wedding is a big thing though, just remember that. But not crucial enough to have her freak out on you for not attending a bridal shower when you've already got plans. :) No reason to cancel your plans to attend, I wouldn't. Especially if she's already got everything picked out. She just wants to go and see what else is out there. That's understandable, but why not ask her Mom if she'd like to go?
Good luck :)
2007-03-17 05:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Kass 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to say you are right you have the right to not go personally I think it is a total waste of time for anyone to go if she has picked everything already. Tell them you would love to go but you have made important plans and you really do not see the point in going to a show when the bride has chosen everything. If she throws a fit just explain to her that
your not her slave or toy she can just boss around. I'm sorry but she sounds like a BRIDEZILLA!
2007-03-17 20:51:54 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think of she's truly your best friend she needs to understand that you have a life and if you've already got stuff that you need to do she needs to respect that. Just because she is the bride does not give her the right to disrespect the bridal party, but just my opinion. Yes it's her day but she's not going to have very many friends left is she's a bridezilla
2007-03-17 06:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in a month and you should try to go if you can, but if you have plans she needs to understand that. There is a lot of work for you as the maid of honor. Just don't be surprised if she flips out on you later, she is under a lot of stress planning a wedding.
2007-03-17 06:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As Maid of Honor you should be giving her a shower, and attending all showers for her. She is supposed to pick out everything as it is her big day.
2007-03-17 07:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by dpascoe8692 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a life. Explain that you have other plans. Do as you wish. If she throws a fit, that's her problem, and a sure sign of immaturity. Dont let her pull you into her drama........or her cycle of life. Spend your day as YOU choose.
2007-03-17 05:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell there is no way you can fit that into your schedule today. If you hadn't already gone to one and picked everything out, it would be different.
2007-03-17 05:29:24 · answer #9 · answered by DOT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋