I've been seeing my girl for four months and we're pretty serious right now. One thing is bothering me though. She has not had many sexual partners (at least not many men) but we had sex the third time we were together. What makes it a little weird is that I didn't initiate it. I can understand if I was nibbling on her neck or getting her crazy but I was actually very drugged up. I had just had a hernia repair that day and was high on vicodin and in a lot of pain. She came to bring me cookies and started to make me feel better and then pretty much we had sex, without my being able to do to much other then sit there and enjoy it. What I'm wondering is if this is too soon or too weird of a way for us to have sex. I feel taken advantage of
2007-03-17 05:22:14 · 6 answers · asked by Andrew P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hell champ don't worry.
Worst case scenario is that you were so drugged up that you had no idea what was going on, and she initiated the sex with you. 9 out of 10 girls/women wont have sex with a guy unless they really like them.
So if your girl initiated it she wasnt using you, she was letting herself share a deep connetion with someone she feels completely safe with and trusts 110%.
The only other way this would be different is if she was a complete (excuse my language - i mean no disrespect ) tramp. But if she has been dating you for 4 months then she most certainly isnt anything like that.
Congrats on having someone that cares so much for your well being and obviously cares for you alot.
My advice is to go with the situation, she obviously cares alot about you, and is also very attracted to you.
Good Luck
2007-03-17 05:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on whether or not you were taken advantage of. if she was pushing the issue before and all of a sudden it happened, coincidentally while you were under the influence, then yes. if not, then it just happened. and i don't think it's weird either, because i lost my virginity in kind of the same way. i was high, because i wanted to be, and it was with someone i just broke up with, because i wouldn't have sex until i was ready, and at that point i knew i was. so anyway i got high because i knew it would hurt physically and mentally, and it did. and i really don't regret it. it's what i thought i had to do at the time. and we both loved each other. and that's what counts.
2007-03-17 05:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're beginning to feel the 3rd date is too soon, then it is too soon for you. You can't possibly know much about someone on a 3rd date. In general, I agree that it is too soon.
She might not have that many partners but she's experienced & it showed to you.
And your question is? I'm guessing you're asking if you were raped by this girl while drugged. If she takes advantage of you without your consent, then it is rape. Now, did you say no to her? You weren't that drugged to say no now were you?
2007-03-17 05:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a good thing, a giving thing. Only prostitutes keep score. If you have some balance of payment thing going on better see a counselor.
2007-03-17 05:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i would have been worried about your health and hurting you. maybe since you were on pain killers you said or did something that made her think it was o.k. just simply ask her what brought it on see what she says if you don't like her answer move on to someone new
2007-03-17 05:30:14 · answer #5 · answered by Ronni 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
feels good do it carefully.
2007-03-17 05:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by drunkmanning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋