okay so I'm engaged to a wonderful guy who I love more than anything. I have this friend who is bi and he recently told me that he is in love with me....I have no clue how this happend but he is REALLY emo and I'm afraid that if I tell him no I'm sorry that he would do something stupid...he has made threats and stuff so should I have my fiance just tell him to go away? or should I do it? any help at all would be great!
2007-03-17 05:14:40 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hmm...
if his made threats..than tell a close fiend of urs to back him off..if that doesn't work.
than tell ur fiance.
2007-03-17 05:21:37 · answer #1 · answered by G?ld?n ang?l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not responsible for the feelings and emotions of other people if you are true to yourself. Have the courage to tell him yourself that you are not interested. You can do this in a loving manner. Tell him that you will always be there for him and love him as a friend if it is true. You can also have your fiance make it clear that you two are perfectly happy together. Don't be vague or your friend will think you are undecided and maybe he has a chance if he is just more persistent. If your friend becomes a jilted stalker, you may have to call the police.
2007-03-17 12:25:25 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should be the one to do it, but if it fails, then send your finance to tell him. As far as his threats - people that usually make threats never carry them out - it's the ones who don't verbally make them usually do. But more importantly than anything - you love this guy you are engaged to and want to spend your life with him. You don't want to mess that up for anything. Even though you may care for this other guy - you have to put your fiance first and realize that this other guy makes his own choices. He chooses to be happy or miserable - it's his choice how he handles it. Good luck to you. Not a fun situation!!
2007-03-17 12:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Sha Sha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bi friend needs to figure out who he is.
he also has to leave you alone.
i think he's a bit sad/jealous figuring that once you are married you won't be spending as much time with him.
explain nicely to him..that you love him..as a friend only.
and will always treasure the freindship you share with him.
be careful you might want to have your fiance there when you tell him..or just call him.
reassure him that you will be a friend.
let him down easily..and distance yourself from him....
2007-03-17 12:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by manhattanmaryanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like ur in a hard position............but stick with ur fiance.......................if hes making threats against you u need to tell someone and u need to tell uyour fiance whats going on.........but if hes threatning to commit suicide.....you need to call the suicide help line at 1800suicide. its a real number and it really helps.....my next door neighbor called it and she is alot better now.....................but dont break up wit ur fiance. GOOD LUCK AND I WILL PRAY FOR YOU!
2007-03-17 12:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋