I'm in college and I really want to have a g/f....(I never had any)
I believe that my looks are the problem...I'm ugly,shy,low self-esteem and really nice(I heard girl don't like REALLY nice guys) but on the other hand I'm really clever,neat,clean and studying dentistry...
I like to talk about money,jobs,stock market,cars....
What qualities I must have/not have?
2007-03-17 05:07:54 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only thing you should work on is your self-esteem. There are no specific qualities that are bound to work with any woman. You just have to be yourself and love and respect who you are. Because if YOU don't, there's a small chance that somebody else will. There is nothing wrong with nice guys, i love nice guys and millions of women do. The key word is CONFIDENCE :)
Good luck
2007-03-17 05:23:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... my boyfriend is really nice and that's one of the things I love most about him. Why would any girl want a guy that was rude to her?
If I were talking to you I wouldn't really want to talk about the stock market or cars since I don't know much about either. When you're talking to a girl you should get to know what she's interested in and talk about those things.
It's good that you're neat, clean and clever. The fact that you're studying dentistry is cool I guess but for some girls that may not even matter. I know it wouldn't for me.
You should try to work on your self-esteem, I like guys that are confident in themselves and I think all girls do too!
HOPE THIS HELPED!
2007-03-17 12:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by тαιητε∂ αηɢεℓ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just worry about finishing dentistry for now. Women find men who are successful and have money/power very attractive. However, talking about those things aren't particularly interesting. Rather women are more focused on knowing that you can provide financially for them and children. Once you are done with dentistry and have a practice and have a good standard of living then you won't have low self-esteem anymore and this won't be an issue either. Then you can worry about where you are going to spend vacations!
2007-03-17 12:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love nice guys. They're harder to get to know but definitely worth the effort. You sound like one of these.
Just be yourself and you will attract a woman who loves someone just like you. Don't try to act like someone else; like someone you think a woman would like. Just as there are many different personalities in men, there are many different kinds of women out there. You won't attract the shallow twits but you won't be interested in them anyway.
Build your self-esteem and lose your shyness by gradually talking to others, helping others. When you realize that you can be of service to others in small or big ways, you'll stop thinking about yourself and stop being self-conscious.
A hint. Look for the brainy girls. They appreciate someone of intelligence. The one comment I have is that you seem to be very focused on material things. Learn to grow emotionally and spiritually by looking inside yourself and conquering your demons. You attract much higher level women and friends.
2007-03-17 12:18:27 · answer #4 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, dont be like that, dont sit in your own self- pity... i can tell you exactly what girls love about guys, well for me anyway- lol... girls like guys who are confident, (but not too confident) a great smile, can bring on the charm and can talk casually about different things, there should be no question about what qualities you MUST have... you are who you are, and i garauntee someone will like you, just the way you are, be more confident, and smile often, if you giving compliments to girls is good.... find out about general hobbies of a girl and then expand on that, anymore q's just email me... good luck..:)
2007-03-17 12:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by v. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be yourself--but always be honest and don't play any games. Don't think you can impress anyone with what you have( don't think a nice car will get you women ) We like nice guys--we just can't find any. Girls that want to play games and jerk you around aren't worth your time. Also ones that date men for money, etc.
Be honest and be yourself--don't try to change for anyone.
good luck to you
2007-03-17 12:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by not active 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't say you're ugly.
Someone might think you're mad hott.
Depends on that person's point of veiw.
For instance, in Africa fat girls are LOVED and skinny girls are HATED.
It all depends on who you're dealing with. The type of person you should go for is someone who is interested in you. Don't get your hopes up for someone who's not worth it or thinks you aren't.
For all you know, there could be plenty of girls that like you, but are WAY too shy to admit it.
2007-03-17 12:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by rosesofchaos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and a girl who likes the qualities you already have will come to you someday
dont be a fake, dont go for qualities that are the "popular ones" because if a girl figures out youve been fake, then she'll probably dump you and your rep would go down
2007-03-17 12:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to change your qualities ..be yourself its good to find a guy whose clean have confident in yourself ,do you have mirors at your home if they have stains on it clean them . why do you have to say that you are ugly i don't think GOD would have created ugly people cause he is beautiful himself what can you do the best use it so like that you could be yourself.who told you girls don't like nice guy...turn out from super zero to a super hero....!
2007-03-17 12:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all im in hs and i like nice guys but no offense to u.......u seem like a geek...........................and talkking about money,and stock markets is boring.....cars and jobs are ok to talk about occasionaly! gd luck
2007-03-17 12:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋