Me and my gf have hit a rough patch....I really love her and I think she loves me but its getting confusing and Im losing trust iin her and a bunch of hard stuff is going on...Im still willing to keep fighting for her but Im gonna also let life run its course...and let God do his will.....but I decided to post this in the Christian section b/c I am an apostolic Christian and believe in God Strongly and Iseek the Godly for advice...if worse comes the worse how do I prepare for it??
2007-03-17 04:42:47 · 15 answers · asked by luv3rnadafighter 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You can't really prepare for anything like that. If you know in your soul that the time is right to end it, then pull the Band-Aid off quickly - don't prolong the agony for either of you.
Most experiences are valuable, even sadness/loss. So don't be afraid of it, but embrace or at least accept it with the goal of learning something (about yourself and other people). Observe the emotion, and get on with your life.
There's too much pressure these days for ordinary relationships to last for a long time (forever??!). Just live in the moment and enjoy the relationship for what it is: sharing time with someone you like and can help you grow (even if it's by helping her). If you're looking for a divine sign, then that's fine - but it's a waste of your life and time (and ingratitude towards your maker, if that's what you believe) to spin your wheels when you know better.
Remember, a relationship (and life in general) is like snowflake: each one is unique, and they usually come to an end (which is why they shouldn't be taken for granted but respected and treasured). So breaking up is not the end of the world; it's part of the natural lifecycle of the snowflake, and there are other snowflakes out there waiting for your attention and the value/joy/hope/knowledge you can add to their day.
P.S. Sometimes, the first break-up doesn't take, and you may get back together. Again, that's your call - no right/wrong answer. You'll probably be ok no matter which way you go as long as you listen to your heart. Just avoid the yellow snow...
2007-03-17 04:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by no_good_names_left_17 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two important things to remember when making huge life decisions:
1) There is no good or bad choice. There are only two different roads leading you to different places. One isn't worse than the other.
2) If ever you decide to break up, time will not stop when you do - the sun will still rise the next day, both for you and for her. I find it important to remember that because sometimes big and emotional events like that ten to make us feel like the world is ending and we can't see what lies beyond.
Good luck with all this. It's never easy.
2007-03-17 05:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know there are problems and you're thinking about it, so you are preparing yourself for it.
It's never easy to break up, especially if you still love the other person.
Sometimes, a little space helps for the two people who really love each other to realize how empty their lives would be withuot the other person. And on the other hand, sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, you realize that it might just be better to stop the romantic involvement and hopefully still be friends.
I hope you resolve your problems and all works out for you.
2007-03-17 04:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by tamara_cyan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray, pray and then pray again. But don't pray that it works out. Pray that His will be done and for strength to accept his will. This may not be THE ONE. There's a great song with the words "some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers." God always answers. Sometimes the answer is no if you ask him to make things happen the way you want them to. That's why I say, pray His will be done. It is always the best way. Trust.
2007-03-17 04:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Scoots 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some of the best advice i got in the wake of the most hurtful breakup i went through was in James Dobson's "love must be tough". glad you mentioned the LORD's will, you are better off being in HIS will sooner than later, if it means breaking up, you will thank HIM, if you were meant to be, either ways you will thank HIM too. all this said, the pain is still there. The LORD is you Healer, you fortress, and i HIM and HIM only will you find complete healing. When you are rightly connected to HIM, then you can rightly connect with her
2007-03-17 05:06:54 · answer #5 · answered by Tuesday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray and ask God what to do. If you are losing trust, you have nothing anyway. Trust is everything in a relationship.Pray and ask God to lead you in the way that He would have you go, and He will.
2007-03-17 04:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Megadose on Vitamin C to keep your immunity up. Stressful life changes can cause health problems.
Also, pray. Pray to know what to say, how to behave, and pray for your gf that she will be comforted and that she will find good people in her life after you are gone from it.
2007-03-17 04:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet n Sour 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmmmmmm
keep that trust I think, first of all
whatever you have to do or not do to keep that.
Then whatever happens will be easier for both of you.
2007-03-17 04:47:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about what ur gonna say
2007-03-17 04:45:42 · answer #9 · answered by kjh06_07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go! there are plenty of fish ready to be caught. don't fight for love, seduce it. moonraven/cinderella
2007-03-17 04:47:26 · answer #10 · answered by cinderella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋