Why can't they understand I don't want to ever have a boyfriend. I can't move on because I lost my boy in a car accident 3 years ago! When I don't go out with them they stop talking to me! I don't know what to do because I don't have any friends because I don't get along with females because they are too jealous!
2007-03-17 04:35:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow you must be hot. Lol. anywyaz im sorry to hear about your lost with your bf who died. its hard when you loose someone you love. You say you never want another bf and I understand that you dont want to replace your bf who died and you probably feel guilty for moving on because he didnt deserve to die. but hunny trust me your bf would want you to move on. He probably loved you and doesnt want you to spend the rest of your life alone. if your just not intrested in your guy friends and thats why you dont want to date them then thats fine. but if you are intrested in one of em and just feel guitly about your bf then dont. give one a try. you will never forget or even loose sight of the love that you lost but you will always hold him in your heart.so give one of em a try what can you loose? Good luck hun and take care.
2007-03-17 04:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry to read about the death of your former boyfriend.
you should consider what really is the most likely things that would have happened if he had not died or been in this accident at all . dont just imagine the dream like bliss of what could have been instead try to really work out in your mind using logic and the odds and just facts what really is most likely the place you and him would be now if he were alive.
i suspect your not that old and that this boy was one of if not the first boyfriend you really ever had.
sounds like you very good looking but a bit too high on your looks as well .
i think you really need to do what i said and add to it some talk with an adult about all of this the death your current state and why you feel as you do about sex and the other girls.
i am not saying your crazy what i am saying is that death is a very difficult thing for a person to understand . a young person finds it even harder . now add to that this first love which in most cases is very intense and like a rollercoaster that most often does not last long and you have a really
difficult bunch of things to work out . since you were not family of the person who died you might have been over looked by those who could have helped you as they didnt understand your state of mind toward this matter.
i hope this was of help to you . remember even marriage is ended by death .
2007-03-17 05:01:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your friend dying. That's a tough thing to have to go through. Nothing we can say here will take away your pain.
With that said, there's nothing you can do to change the past either, and if you don't move on, you're going to be stuck. Also, it sounds like there are things that you are doing that you are either not aware of or are ignoring not to notice: there's probably a reason why your guy friends think they have a chance with you and why other girls are so called jealous of you and it has to do with your behavior. Change your behavior, and you'll change your results.
Peave.
2007-03-17 04:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by It's Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I can't tell you to move on, I 've never been in such a situation. But I am sure you can find some female friends to hang out with too. As for guys, if they approach you just to date you, you'd better tell them from the start that you 're not ready to date yet. There are good boys out there, who can live with it and be your friends. Some of them may not be so cool but they'll be there for you -if you know what I mean, you could hang out with less popular guys, who aren't considered players, because this is all players have in mind, and can't be friends for real with any girl.
So to sum up, be careful when you choose your friends and give girls a chance too.
2007-03-17 04:41:19 · answer #4 · answered by moulin.rouge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some guys have an agenda that supercedes everything else. and if you're an attractive female and you're single? well... they think you're fair game.
they don't know what you've been through unless you tell them and that's gotta be tough having to explain this to a guy because he's interested in you and you're just not interested in anyone in that way right now. all you can really do is tell them that you're only interested in being friends and if that causes them to chuck you like yesterday's newspaper, well maybe they weren't the kind of friend material you needed anyway.
2007-03-17 04:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loss takes time to recover but we all must move on eventually. Maybe you need to speak to someone b/c maybe deep downinside you are afraid to get close to someone b/c you may lose them like you did your boy. If you do not address this issue then you may end up being alone. We all need friends and guys should understand that but if it is b/c you had a loss you have to resolve that issue first before anything.
2007-03-17 04:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. Maybe you are too hot to resist. You may be getting extra attention b/c guys fell that they want to "save you" and feel bad for you. Don't mind other women since they are just haters and jealous. I have been in the same sort of situation and it really sucks. Maybe you are flirting without noticing or you like the attention. Who doesn't anyways. Just be yourself and let thing happen.
2007-03-17 04:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey that is so sad. Please don't cave. You need to do what you are ready for and if they can't accept it they aren't real friends to begin with. First of all one day you will probably meet a guy who is a real friend and sticks with you as just that if he cannnot have more. That will probably be the one you end up wanting to date. Second of all, girlfriends can sometimes be the loves of your life so keep an open mind in case you meet the right girl!
2007-03-17 04:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the healthy thing to move on but only when your ready!Sorry for your loss i know how this is!These guys aren't really your Friends to begin with-they should understand and back off.you need to keep on keeping your ground if they don't like it too bad for them.Find some new friends-that really just want to be/stay friends.Don't give mixed messages and be clear about what it is that you want-if they push it or don't like it too bad.
2007-03-17 04:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by sweetsmiles69@jennieask-me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd try to work on my relationships with female friends. Most guys just aren't interested in girls for platonic relationships, unless 1. they want to date one of your friends 2. they are dating one of your friends.
Change your attitude about other girls, chances are they aren't all jealous and if you give them a chance, you can meet some new friends.
2007-03-17 04:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by kiddo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋