Me and my husband have a 3 year old son. My husband is a great dad, and he is kind of gangsterish. He has his ears pierced,and he has long hair......The point is, he wants to pierce my 3 year old boy's left ear. Should I let him? He wanted to do so at birth, and I refused. Now, my son said he wants his ear pierced. Now its 2 aganist one. Should I let them? BTW....He also wants to grow my son's hair long. And its already longer than his chin. What should I do?
2007-03-17 04:09:18 · 20 answers · asked by Silvia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The school has no policy aganist piercing or long hair.
2007-03-17 04:31:27 · update #1
BTW...They are both Blonde...
2007-03-17 04:32:11 · update #2
In my opinion, your son is a boy and at his age (especially) he needs to look like a boy. If you pierce his ear and grow his hair out he will not look like a boy. But something you also have to remember is that he is YOUR son too. If you do not feel comfortable with getting his ear pierced, that should be respected. Piercing an ear is permanent, the hole can close up, but there is still a scar there. A three year old doesn't know what he wants, so I wouldn't use that as the basis, your the parent.
2007-03-17 04:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is where you draw the line.. What's next a tattoo. Look tell him when he can give birth to a baby then he can choose whether to pierce his ears or not. Your his mother don't let your husband take advantage of you. Also I think your husband might have convinced your son to say yes. One last thing I think that if it was just his hair it would be fine ,but his ear will have that in it or if taken out it will be there as a scare or a earring. I mean it is permanent.
2007-03-17 04:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kinka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well with the hair, your son will probobly be starting school in the not to distant future, and most school will require male students to shorten their hair. Also they probobly wont allow an earing either. Find out with the school that he'll be going to in a year or so (depending on where you're from) and see what their dress codes for young students are. If they are against anything like that then you have a full blown reason to tell your husband no, and not just that you dont want it. Either way continue telling him that you dont want that for your son. Tell him how he's only 3 and you want to keep him as a kid and not have him start growing up to fast. Good luck.
2007-03-17 04:17:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It just depends on how you want your son to look. I mean, he is 3 so he wants an earing today and a blues clues tattoo tomorrow. You have to show him that you are the adult and that you make the decisions. As far as your husband maybe you guys should talk over the pros and cons and why you feel he shouldn't have his ear peirced and why your husband wants him to have it done. Do the same with your sons hair. It all comes down to do you want your 3 year old boy to look like a gangster (as you said his father looks like) or do you want him to look like a normal kid.l
2007-03-17 04:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by minicoop_jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should not let him!! at least not on the piercing!!! the hair thing is up to you. You need to talk in Private with your hubby and tell him he is to young to have his ear pierced maybe when he gets older ( like teen older) ( oh ya they will not let any boys have a ear piercing in school ... you need to think about that too. )
2007-03-17 04:15:39 · answer #5 · answered by mommy of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think long hair is fine but I would wait until you son is old enough to make the decision on his own. I would wait until age 6 or 7 until you get it done. My friend got her daughter's pierced with she was 2 and she hated it and the holes grew shut, it is your choice though that is just my opinion.
2007-03-17 05:27:08 · answer #6 · answered by Emily Answers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"... most school will require male students to shorten their hair."
Those are some weird and rather unique schools.
Anyway. Yes to the hair, no to the piercing. You can't just "take it out," as another person suggested; there'll still be a mark.
Permanent body modifications are NOT something to inflict upon an child too young to give legitmate consent, but hair can always be cut later on.
2007-03-17 04:23:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't peirce a 3 year old's ear, boy or girl. They are too young to know how to keep it clean while it's healing. Besides, do you really want to start him on peircing now?? If you want to let him grow his hair, fine, but I would draw the line at body modification for toddlers.
2007-03-17 04:47:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kat H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a decision you and your husband need to make together. Your son is only 3 - guess what? He doesn't have a say. What if in several years from now he's mortified that you actually did that to him?
He's only 3, let him be a child and let him make his own decision later on in life.
As for your husband, if he's using your 3 year old against you to try and win battles.......need I say more?
2007-03-17 10:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by 2LabsNY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only 3, don't let your husband reuin your little boy like that. Wait until your son is older to do a piercing, and cut his hair, poor thing.
2007-03-17 04:18:06 · answer #10 · answered by vgleason_102301 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋